First of all, sorry you had to do that.Miscarriage is very common and very much apart of the natural pregnancy process, but for obvious reasons, it's a subject that's generally avoided by those hoping to conceive.
I think it's more about the person in question that's being discussed, and how past performance has led to the creation of great cynicism of her motives and actions.
Nobody is saying miscarriage shouldn't be discussed. From my experience, most 'normal' people just don't want to discuss it. Certainly not outside the company of others who have experienced the same.
My ex miscarried twice. The second time I cleared up the mess on the toilet floor. I say 'mess', the mess had actually taken a form. Outside the protection of an anonymous forum, I would never want to talk about that.
Markle, through her team of PR people, has turned the process into a storyline from a cheap Channel 5 afternoon movie.
If she's that bothered into helping others with the news, then she could always anonymously volunteer for a local help group. In fact, maybe she has. But then again, I would suspect not.
The second half of your post, though... precisely. This isn’t just MM. There’s a dozen-strong PR team involved. None of this is visceral, spontaneous. It’s constructed.
And volunteer? Get her hands dirty for hours on end without a photo opportunity? Yeah.
A gay friend of mine recently told me just how much under-the-radar charity work George Michael used to do. No fuss. Just did it. I was taken aback.
That’s the difference.