The following query has been on a few sites in the last few days, but not as far as I am aware, on ARRSE. It's unusual in that it's a question that it would be expected to have been answered easily in a few hours but not so. It's not my query but it might help to throw it open to a larger audience. Private Gray is not listed among the graves in Silent Valley Military Cemetery. That means one of two things: (i) He wasn't buried there in the first place, or (ii) He was buried there but subsequently exhumed and his remains repatriated. Also, although he is listed on the National Armed Forces Memorial, according to the database there is no record of his cemetery and plot; which the great majority of records contain. That would be normally one of two reasons, MOD wishes it omitted, or doesn't know. If MOD doesn't know, that's not as surprising as it might sound- in the event of subsequent repatriation, there is no requirement to inform MOD of the place of burial (although I imagine there would be an exception if a military headstone was required.) Repatriation at the time of death was quite rare but not unknown-the cost had to be met by the family. Subsequently repatriations have occurred because, I understand, of attitudes to the fallen (post Falklands) changing. However the author of the query is a relation and therefore may well have known if Private Gray had been buried locally (Ayr). There are a number of other possibilites some of which it is probably better not to speculate upon, but a couple of them can be discounted; Ma'alla Military/War Cemetery was, by Aug 65, closed for new interments. There were no facilities for cremation in Aden. So for the relative of Pte Gray and also for his memory, it would be nice to solve this one.