When I Was living at home some of my dad's friends used to come round occasionally and tell us how their sons or people they were getting on in the army or with their lives. They'd travelled, been overseas or were getting married, then they'd have a kid of their own and a house. I just want to ask as a civilian, is there some secret to this? I've found it impossible to even get a relationship with a woman, just been to parties/nightclubs years ago etc, been on a few dates in recent years which haven't led to anything. I don't understand how people have got married 10 or more years younger than me, been around the world and so on. How do you find time to do this in the army? Do most people meet their spouse at school/college before joining?