My divorce finally came through a few months back after a two year process.
I'll not go into details about the whys and wherefores etc. but it was not my choosing.
Anyway, I am much happier now, have got back on my feet again and stragely have been sort of dating the woman who I should have made a commitment to way back.
When I'd left the army I was 'seeing' but not sleeping with, a number of women in a 'let's see how this pans out' kind of way and to quote Indiana Jones And The Last Crusade, I chose poorly.
One of the women I was around at the time was an old freind who I'd seen only a handful of times since my marriage, but we got back together about 18 months back and clicked.
She's smart, funny and has a great sense of humour. More importantly, she is not, in any way shape or form, mental. And things just feel right whenever we are together. There is no walking on egg shells in case you say the wrong thing, she can see the humour in awkward situations and guide me out of them if I feel like I had put my foot in it.
It's just hard to explain how easy things feel when we're together.
The point of this thread is not to get all soppy, but to ask other members who have been through the same process - divorce, starting dating again etc. - how they felt when you found out there was actually someone out there who's sole purpose was not to make your every moment a living hell where black is white and up is down and 2+2 =7 to such an extent you really don't know what is happening anymore.
But yeah, if I'd known then what I do now I would have saved myself 14 years of hell, made the right decision and been happy for a lot longer.
Aplogies if this seems to ramble, but I've just got off a long haul flight this morning and am jetlagged to hell.
I'll not go into details about the whys and wherefores etc. but it was not my choosing.
Anyway, I am much happier now, have got back on my feet again and stragely have been sort of dating the woman who I should have made a commitment to way back.
When I'd left the army I was 'seeing' but not sleeping with, a number of women in a 'let's see how this pans out' kind of way and to quote Indiana Jones And The Last Crusade, I chose poorly.
One of the women I was around at the time was an old freind who I'd seen only a handful of times since my marriage, but we got back together about 18 months back and clicked.
She's smart, funny and has a great sense of humour. More importantly, she is not, in any way shape or form, mental. And things just feel right whenever we are together. There is no walking on egg shells in case you say the wrong thing, she can see the humour in awkward situations and guide me out of them if I feel like I had put my foot in it.
It's just hard to explain how easy things feel when we're together.
The point of this thread is not to get all soppy, but to ask other members who have been through the same process - divorce, starting dating again etc. - how they felt when you found out there was actually someone out there who's sole purpose was not to make your every moment a living hell where black is white and up is down and 2+2 =7 to such an extent you really don't know what is happening anymore.
But yeah, if I'd known then what I do now I would have saved myself 14 years of hell, made the right decision and been happy for a lot longer.
Aplogies if this seems to ramble, but I've just got off a long haul flight this morning and am jetlagged to hell.
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