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Feeling Empty

How have you been getting on since January? You seem to post a reasonable amount on here but have you been able to get out a bit and engage, COVID permitting?

Fresh air and country walks does wonders, and instant lift rather than having to pop the likes of Citalopram for months to get a result
 

Yokel

LE
I do live in the countryside, but with one thing or another I do not get as much outdoors time as I would like. Partly this is due to having all sorts of things to do, but also due to a sense of guilt as the disabled parent I help cannot just pop out when she wants.

Guilt for not being able to do more is a nig thing for me. I think it at least partly goes back to school and being told how terrible it was for them [other kids] when I could not keep up or catch a ball.
 
I do live in the countryside, but with one thing or another I do not get as much outdoors time as I would like. Partly this is due to having all sorts of things to do, but also due to a sense of guilt as the disabled parent I help cannot just pop out when she wants.

Guilt for not being able to do more is a nig thing for me. I think it at least partly goes back to school and being told how terrible it was for them [other kids] when I could not keep up or catch a ball.
You could try to stop judging yourself by other people's standards.

Re outdoors. What do you think about a subtle change in thinking?
Mum is stuck indoors, therefore I must stay indoors.
Mum is stuck indoors, therefore I should explore the outdoors for her.
Do you see how the second option can be beneficial to you both?
 

Yokel

LE
I seem to be tired all the time, and unable to take an interest in anything.

The problem is not so much judging myself by other people's standards, I simply gauge myself against what I ought to do or can do. The problem for me has been being judged because of a malicious lie being told to my friends/colleagues that has caused them to misjudge me and even submit false allegations.

No more career. No more social activity. Health problems. But the person responsible has protected his reputation - despite being implicated in a serious complaint.
 
I'm in a very similar situation to you.
Complaint made against me that has dragged on for 11 months now, constantly doubting myself, feeling like shit and doing my absolute very fecking best not to crawl into a bottle and stay there.

But, lately I've just thought "**** it" what's the worst they can do to me, they can bend me over and royally **** me, but they ain't gonna get me pregnant.

I've sort of got it straight in my head that it's not worth the aggro worrying about shit that's out of my control, let them do their worst because ultimately in the grand scheme of things, they can't actually do much at all. Fine, fire me... I'll find a different job, discipline me.. OK smile nicely say thank you and crack on. Sod everyone else, my life, my rules, my decisions.. If it doesn't fit in with other people's expectations then they can go **** themselves.

As sir Lemmy of Motorhead said.

"DON'T LET THE BASTARDS GRIND YOU DOWN"
 
I seem to be tired all the time, and unable to take an interest in anything.

The problem is not so much judging myself by other people's standards, I simply gauge myself against what I ought to do or can do. The problem for me has been being judged because of a malicious lie being told to my friends/colleagues that has caused them to misjudge me and even submit false allegations.

No more career. No more social activity. Health problems. But the person responsible has protected his reputation - despite being implicated in a serious complaint.
I'm not surprised you are tired all the time. Yet you manage to function. That's an achievement some struggle with. As @Old Stab says, what's the worst that can happen. At that point, anything good is a bonus. I learned to accept the things I couldn't change and learned to let go. As for socialising, if you stay indoors you have to accept far fewer opportunities. If you choose to go outside you create your own opportunities. I've had many chats with people outdoors during lock down, observing social distancing. Maybe the quality of contact isn't what you want but would you prefer no contact?

Easier said than done of course when you have no interest or motivation. You have to force yourself. You may have no interest in food but you have to eat. If you are able to walk, walk. It helps your circulation. After a few days, your body craves exercise. I'm frustrated because I'm expecting a parcel and I want to go out. I need the exercise. If I don't get the exercise it will affect my health. If I don't get out I will miss out on opportunities and freedom to think outwith the confines of the house.
 

Yokel

LE
I did consider applying to volunteer with someone like the National Coastwatch Institution or RAYNET, but my enquires seem to have got lost in the ether. Does anyone have experience of either of these?

My background is in Electronics and Communications, I have maritime and security knowledge, and know radio voice procedures. I also still have a taste for technical work.
 

endure

GCM
Raynet is for radio amateurs.

You need an amateur licence of some sort to join.

Given the fact that you have an amateur ticket and can talk to the world why would you want to duplicate the emergency services on a part time basis?

If you've got an amateur callsign the world is your oyster. Talk to the antipodes rather than the bloke 2 fields over...
 
I seem to be tired all the time, and unable to take an interest in anything.

The problem is not so much judging myself by other people's standards, I simply gauge myself against what I ought to do or can do. The problem for me has been being judged because of a malicious lie being told to my friends/colleagues that has caused them to misjudge me and even submit false allegations.

No more career. No more social activity. Health problems. But the person responsible has protected his reputation - despite being implicated in a serious complaint.

Could be worse, you could be ginger.

















Er, you’re not ginger, are you?
 

Yokel

LE
Raynet is for radio amateurs.

You need an amateur licence of some sort to join.

Given the fact that you have an amateur ticket and can talk to the world why would you want to duplicate the emergency services on a part time basis?

If you've got an amateur callsign the world is your oyster. Talk to the antipodes rather than the bloke 2 fields over...

I do not have a licence - but would be keen to help witge technical side. Planning, set up, and troubleshooting. The point is that it would be useful to society and contribute to resilience.

If I remember correctly, the NCI would pay for a VHF licence.

Could be worse, you could be ginger.

















Er, you’re not ginger, are you?

No - and I am not bald either. I do seem to have gone a bit grey in places.
 

endure

GCM
I do not have a licence - but would be keen to help witge technical side. Planning, set up, and troubleshooting. The point is that it would be useful to society and contribute to resilience.

Getting a licence isn't all that difficult. It can be done online nowadays. Might be worth looking into...
 
I did consider applying to volunteer with someone like the National Coastwatch Institution or RAYNET, but my enquires seem to have got lost in the ether. Does anyone have experience of either of these?

My background is in Electronics and Communications, I have maritime and security knowledge, and know radio voice procedures. I also still have a taste for technical work.
You could do worse than look at this list for your nearest branch then get in contact. It may be that they have contacts or knowledge of other areas related to preparation and comms which you could investigate.
RAYNET-UK | Main Website - Zonal contacts Great idea. Good initiative. Well done.
 
I do not have a licence - but would be keen to help witge technical side. Planning, set up, and troubleshooting. The point is that it would be useful to society and contribute to resilience.

If I remember correctly, the NCI would pay for a VHF licence.



No - and I am not bald either. I do seem to have gone a bit grey in places.

You’re not ginger!

See, it’s not all bad :)
 

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