Well guys. After many useless and pointless directions hearings over residence and contact, the time has come to finally have a decent allotted time to wrangle matters. As usual ex-swmbo is behaving like a snake with tits but has dug herself a BFO hole. If your going to put porkies on paper, make sure its consistent. She has now appointed counsel due to the way I destroyed her solicitor last time. Massage statements all you want you chud, you cant change the facts. And here is the big thing everyone needs to remember when splitting up: DOCUMENTARY EVIDENCE. Bank statements, phone records. Text messages. Letters....log it all, keep it all and NEVER put yourself in a position of her word against yours. Get a dictaphone and tell EVERYONE your recording or its inadmissable. Most of all. STAY CALM AND PROFESSIONAL. I must admit that I lost my rag at first and learned the hard way and have had to stick my head in a lot of books to reduce the impact of my mistakes. I have counsel too but as a McKenzie, as the judge is judging me, not my legal rep. Its such a shame that some people cant distinguish the differnce between the breakdown of the partnership and the interests of the children. Anyhow. I may be too optimistic. Waitout for sitrep.