family are extremely unsupportive of me joining

Discussion in 'Join the Army - Regular Soldier Recruitment' started by tankscrow, May 4, 2013.

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  1. []im 17 years old, 18 in july and i was planning on joining after the summer(waiting to finish school) .my parents and older brother and sister are advising me not to join saying that's its tough and they f**k you around the place and your stuck there for 4 years. I have wanted to join with a few years now but its becoming harder ever day to deal with my family. My first job choice at the moment is a CMT. I honestly don't know what I can do because when I tell them the reasons to join e.g discipline, fitness ECT. They say I don't need the army to achieve those qualities. I do need a bit of advice. Thanks guys
  2. So, are you going to live your life for your family, or for yourself? Tell them to butt out.
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  3. What exactly do you need advice on? Once you're 18 you don't need your parents permission to join the Army, so do what you want.
  4. Tell them you want to drink like a viking, eat like a king, **** like a pornstar and kill babies.

    What's not to like?
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  5. If you don't do it - or at least try it, then you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
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  6. Just do it mate wen ya 18 apply they cant say or do anything then. Make sure it is wat u want to do though otherwise you'll quit before u start

    But if you're 100% set on going do it because if you dont you will regret it.

    Btw it would take a cold family not support their child through it because even if they dont agree or like it, they can still respect that you are being a grown up and taking charge of your life and stepping up.

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  7. Obviously your parents think it would be better for their precious to work at McD's or a similar dead end job because that will mean you won't have to do anything anyone asks you to do ie. I'd like fries with that, well get them your fuckin self etc.

    Interesting that they don't see the Forces as a good career move, may I ask what do they do for a living? What alternative employment did they suggest?

    My advice wait till your 18 if they won't sign the papers and join up , you'll either love it or hate it. Its your life as mentioned in post # 2, live it.
  8. When your 18 you can do as you please, my parents were dead set against me joining, but I did anyway, they came round to the idea pretty quickly, if it helps see it as a test of your commitment to be part of a way of life not just a job, like someone else said, if you dont try it you will have to live with the "what if" or "if only" for the rest of your life
  9. Thus Spake and I agree for once, get your arse in gear and do it.

  10. My dads a prison officer in London, my brothers a radiographer in London, my sisters a teacher in Ireland and my mothers a nurse in Ireland. They suggested to become a prison officer like my dad and if it doesn't work out maybe then try the army and when I said why not to the other way round (army first) they said your stuck there for 4 years before they let you out
  11. And you will have some of the best training available IMHO in the world (time to study an OU degree) and had a relatively sheltered look at life.

    I go the other way I'm not sure I would want my son joining the prison service @ 18 and being exposed to the scum of society on a daily basis. Has your dad thought of it that way.
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  12. You want to be a Squaddie, you wouldn't be visiting sites like this unless if you want to be a Nursiee or a copper then there are other sites, I promise you pain, more pain and mates (not the lightweight civvie version, the real stuff).
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  13. I assume you want to join up for some adventure and fun in your life as well as being able to learn a civvy trade ? Ignore you family and go for it, being a prison officer sounds extremely dull , I`d rather be un employed than look after a warehouse full of mongs.
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  14. Tell them politely, (or as politely as you feel is appropriate), but firmly that its your life and you'll be leading it your way. They presumably are leading their lives their way, ask them why they are trying to deny that to you.
    All animals, including the human animal, leave home to develop their lives, tell them you are going to be doing just that. They can wish you all the very best or failing that they can be ignored or at worst consigned to the past.
    You can choose your friends but not your family, just because they are your family doesn't mean you have much, or indeed anything, in common with them.
    They may also be secretly jealous of your willingness to put yourself through what they call tough times.
    If you do as they are telling you they will actually despise you for being weak and failing to stick to your guns.
    You will regret all your life failing to do what you wanted and knowing that it was your family that caused that failure will cause a bitterness between you and them that will last to your dying days and will separate you from your family anyway.
    In joining up you will be joining a new family and if that means leaving your old family the loss will be theirs not yours.
    He who hesitates is lost. GO FOR IT!
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  15. Your father and your brother sound jealous of you. Are they?