Discussion in 'Army Pay, Claims & JPA' started by Dontdreamit, Jul 26, 2008.
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7 months seems a bit... brief. Why not contact relate, SSAFA or the Padre for a bit of resolution first.
It could be something silly like she canÂ´t adjust to living away from family and friends.
What is causing the agro? What agro is there?
Speak to chocolate frog!
Seriously though, in most cases communication is the biggest cause of ALL relationship breakdowns, speak to your missus first.
However, for a full breakdown of the ins and outs, see Army Legal Aid in Bielefeld, as it is free. It is not free if you are stationed back in the mainland. Asking for full advice here is a bit like e-mailing a mechanic and saying 'my cars running funny whats wrong with it'.
That said, a few points,
1. You cannot legally divorce unless you have been married 1 year (you don't have to live together obviously!!!)
2. If you do split, inform your G1 chain ASP. They will advise you as to what happens next, who goes where etc.
3. Yours is a very short marriage, so we won't be hearing about a million pound settlement in the news.
I have enough dramas with my own ball and chain, the question were hypothetical.
I was in your situation a few years ago but we got back together, unfortunatley. Anyway, at the time I had moved into the Mess and from that date we had 93 days 'grace' in which she could remain at the quarter. After 93 days she must move and will be served notice. Public funds will pay for her and her furniture removal back to the mainland. If you get back together after this any removal costs back to Germany etc. you will both pay.
Someone please correct me if the above info. is misleading in any way.
All in all, it is relatively straight forward for the squaddie in this situation other than the normal separation stress.
If she claims she has no were else to go then she could be found a place in the dumped wifes club in Corsham , however not sure if they let single ( e.g no children) wifes in there
OK, I've recently split from my wife of 12 years and can tell you what I experienced. My wife is a German national and was entitled to 2/5th's of my wage after maintenance if she had worked during the marriage or 3/5th's after maintenance if she had not (working on and off to a total of 4 years qualified as having not worked).
As things progressed I won custody of my children and her payments were reduced due to her now owing me maintenance for the children, so I no longer had to pay her those amounts, however, I still have to pay her a reduced amount. It's worth noting that if your wife is German and you married in Germany you will probably end up paying her the earth due to the German system being very wife biased.
If your wife is British or another nationality I honestly couldn't say as I haven't experienced it.
If you or anybody else is currently going through a split with a German wife, feel free to pm me for advice. I used ALA Bielefeld but sourced a lot of outside info during my custody battle and "wife payment fight"and am happy to pass on what I know.
dont quote me on this but if you're married less than 4 or 5 years she isnt entitled to any of your gratuity or pension????
Just give her half of everything, save yourself a sh1t load of solicitors bills and heartache and get on with your life. Speaking as someone who didn't follow the above advice. It cost me everything, house, kids, car and business and after two years not really back on my feet properly.
She a boxhead? any brats involved? if its just a greedy boxhead with no kids then tell her to feck off and she's getting "Salmon and trout" Wont pretend i'm an expert, my ex missus was .... sigh . ... is german and wanted it all, but i was no longer serving so she ended up getting more in the long run.
Well if she's lining her majorca hand stitched purse just hope she comes a cropper mate, good luck.
Me? Bitter? whatever gave you that idea
You also have to have grounds for divorce - Adultery; Behaviour; Desertion; Separation and consent; Five year separation.
I don't know any of your details, but you may well have to be living apart for 2 years before you can get divorced!
Buy her a box of chocolates.
When she says "You're not getting round me with those" just say to her.
They're to eat on the plane, now FECK OFF
Edited to add: Markintime does not necessarily represent the views of Relate
the 12 month thing can be sticky - looking at it myself n we were together for 18 months - according to all the paperwork i got adultery the quickest but if you or her go down route of not gelling or unreasonable behaviour the courts ask u for about 6 occurances - sort of stuff they looking for is if police were called to a domestic etc
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