Dreadful parent - any point calling the police?

#1
Woman's just moved in down the road. 2 kids - boys of 4 and 18mths. She regularly lets them out alone and the elder child bugs off and leaves the younger one to his own devices. Each day when I'm home from work this little fella is walking up and down the pavement and even in the road - today on our drive he was about to touch the exhaust on my motorcycle which would've been horrific. Upshot - seemingly the mother doesn't care.

Last week, my 7 yr old lad had some rough play with the 4yr old so she took the boy's bike. I soon got that back but the situation wasn't helped when I realised that this lady is from South Africa and so is my wife. They're from different political and skin hues and my wife now refers to her as "that bloody maid." I reckon I'll phone the Elderly William next time but is there any point? Any plod around the NAAFI this evening?
 
#3
A call to the Social Services could be in order.

As long as it's a genuine concern and not a cheap shot due to your wife falling out with her, then it's valid.

No child should suffer abuse or neglect - at least if social services are made aware of the situation they can at least make an attempt to monitor it.

I expect that would be the advice of the plod too.
 
#4
trickywoo said:
Woman's just moved in down the road. 2 kids - boys of 4 and 18mths. She regularly lets them out alone and the elder child bugs off and leaves the younger one to his own devices. Each day when I'm home from work this little fella is walking up and down the pavement and even in the road - today on our drive he was about to touch the exhaust on my motorcycle which would've been horrific. Upshot - seemingly the mother doesn't care.

Last week, my 7 yr old lad had some rough play with the 4yr old so she took the boy's bike. I soon got that back but the situation wasn't helped when I realised that this lady is from South Africa and so is my wife. They're from different political and skin hues and my wife now refers to her as "that bloody maid." I reckon I'll phone the Elderly William next time but is there any point? Any plod around the NAAFI this evening?



Bitch and a half I reckon, better keep the poor we dude away from your motorbike, if he burnt his hand his mother
would probally care so much about him she would sue you, for your house and everything you one :?
 
#5
MB is right. You're not 'dobbing her in' you have genuine concern that the child is suffering neglect. Keep a note of dates and times (seen wandering about etc) so when she says 'its all spiteful nonsense' you point to yer notes.

No joy from the Social? (not SS for nothing) Call the cops, and get it on the CAD/despatch record. Then its on their records too. Go round with them (affecting a concerned neighbour face) and see what her living conditions are like, and make a fuss. The cops will have to remember it. Take numbers. Be prepared for some poor personal admin, but as long as the kids are clean and eating, it could all be ok. Sounds noddy, but how Shoite will you feel when the ambulance pulls up, and all anyone can say is I wish I bothered...

Now, was'nt there a Goverment policy about this?
 
#6
trickywoo said:
seemingly the mother doesn't care.
How many times have I seen an example of this, just a part of Britains failing society I`m afraid. Phone the SS and the plod, don`t feel guilty about it, it`ll either save a nippers life or save you from being sued when he burns his hand on your bike. :roll:
 
#8
You know what - I can't believe I actually had to think about this. It's the original no brainer. I'll get in touch with the SS tomorrow, anonymously or otherwise but I'll do it. Cheers folks - you've stiffened my resolve.
 
#10
Let us know what(if anything) happens
 
#11
sliding_doors said:
She's from a different culture- one where it may be completely normal for an 18 month kid to play in the road with its older sibling just as it was over here during the 60's when there was far less traffic about. This used to be the norm and wouldn't mean the parent was 'dreadful' at all.
Initially just be a good neighbour and call round yourself for a chat with her and explain how over here it's just not safe for her kids to play unsupervised outside.
If there is a real cause for concern after this get in touch with the child protection team at your local nick and ask them to go and see her and have a word.
Blair and his Police nanny state would have us rushing to report our neighbours to the authorities but the onus morally is on you, your missus and her other neighbours to re educate and assist her and try to sort out the problems in your neighbourhood yourselves if you possibly can.
No good whinging about the deterioration of our communities if we are unwilling to play our part in mending fences is it.
So you were the one who came up with that goverment slogan of "Stop moaning and take action", how very naive, take the responsibility from the parent and pass it onto everybody else, nice one 8O
 
#12
sliding_doors said:
slick said:
So you were the one who came up with that goverment slogan of "Stop moaning and take action", how very naive. 8O
No I'm just someone who takes action instead of moaning.
Are you one of the ones who always says "nowt to do wi' me" then whinges about the state of the nation? Thought so
So wrong old chap, any adult regardless of what culture or country they come from can see the amount of traffic or hazards their offspring will face merely by standing outside their own place of residence, its part of being a parent no matter what race, creed, colour or religious persuasion you are. :) (now sitting still :D )
 
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#13
What you don't want to do is to be suspected by her of having dropped her in it. The last thing you want is a battle with the neighbours as no bugger wins when it gets down to that level. The way to avoid this is to report the matter to the police and tell them that the next time you see it happen that you will phone them. They can then 'discover' the incident whilst 'patrolling' your patch. They will take it up with the mother and it may stop there with a warning that any subsequent occurence will be dealt with involving Social Services. She may herself fall into the category of 'neglect' in relation to the care of her children , which could result in criminal action being taken against her. This all sounds a bit sneaky, but as you say she is from a different culture and may be genuinely unaware of the rules. and if it can be resolved with a warning and some education, then alls well that ends well.
 
#15
Moodybitch said:
A call to the Social Services could be in order.

As long as it's a genuine concern and not a cheap shot due to your wife falling out with her, then it's valid.

No child should suffer abuse or neglect - at least if social services are made aware of the situation they can at least make an attempt to monitor it.

I expect that would be the advice of the plod too.
With most LA there is a number that you can ring anonymously, if no action takes place then PM me, I will give advice
 
#16
0808 800 5000 helpline for concerns about a childs welfare (NSPCC)

They may be able to advise you better as to your options!
 
#17
Moody itch had done my head right in !

i started laughing at MB's avatar, I laughed so much I had to take my specs off to wipe my eyes.............

but ive been painting the hall and managed to rub paint into my eyes, which are now stinging like mad :(
 

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