I thought this was interesting - if you can wait for things you have the world's biggest advantage over those that can't. Especially interesting was the research that kids who are told are wonderful can't cope with reversals and tend to wrap their tits in when things don't go their way. All kinds of training implications - or maybe, by the time they are 18 you are pissing in the wind. http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/families/article5063058.ece The most interesting bit - "One study by Martin Selig-man and Angela Duckworth concluded that an individualâs IQ, or intelligence quotient, accounts for only a third of any difference in academic performance when compared with peers. The rest has to do with qualities such as perseverance, self-discipline, hard work, creativity and luck. One impediment to developing grit, another study concluded, was a parentâs overindulgent praise of a child".