The Personal Conflict This is the first discussion scenario referred to in the announcement. This is a serious one that requires, potentially, a difficult moral decision about whoâs interest is put first. Read and consider the following, it is a situation that a lot of cadet instructors could find themselves in and is based on a genuine event. I am the detachment commander of an cadet unit which is isolated in that there is not another cadet detachment of any type within 3 miles. I have a 13 year old son who attends the local comprehensive school and who has a long record of being bullied and victimised by a group of boys. Interventions by the school, and the previous junior school at my insistence have been reasonably successful. One evening one of the teenagers who you believe to be instrumental in the string of bullying incidents which have caused your family so much grief over the years, arrives at the detachment and wants to join the cadet movement. You know some of his background. He is historically a bully but more verbal than physical. He lives with his grandmother who is not supportive. His mother died 3 years ago, He lived in the interim period with his alcoholic and violent father who is now in prison. You are on good terms with his much older sister who lives near you and is a sensible and upstanding citizen. So this is exactly the kind of teenager who is crying out for a bit of structure and discipline together with a strong, responsible male role model. Just what the cadet movement offers for troubled teens. I however have to decide whether I can work with a cadet who has caused my family so much trouble over the years. I run the risk of not treating him fairly, additionally I canât stand the sight of the little turd and expect him to rapidly follow his father into the criminal justice system. What do I do? Do I accept him as a cadet and make County HQ aware of the potential conflict? Do I try to organise a different detachment for him and some way of getting there? Do I accept that his need for the cadet movement is paramount and accept him but request a transfer to another detachment to give the boy a fair chance? Carry on.