The Sgts Mess Presiding Member (RSM 7 Signal Regiment) is discriminating against partners who are serving by not allowing partners who are not of mess status themselves to attend functions. If you go down town and pick up a street tramp she is entitled to attend the mess as your partner, doesnt matter how long you have known each other or how you feel about each other or if she has any idea of mess etiquette or decency. Due to the amount and frequency of Operational tours, which is well known to destroy marriages, who else are the single Seniors supposed to meet and fall in love with? While serving in Germany or other foreign parts soldiers are bound to find themselves becoming attracted to one another. Amazingly this can be dealt with on a professional basis at work, the couples involved would never allow the fact that they are seeing each other to change the way they deal with rank issues. A partner of a mess member is a partner of a mess member, nothing more she/he does not hold any rank or seniority in the mess in their own right, she/he is the partner of a mess member! How/Why can a partner of a mess member who also happens to be in the Armed Forces be classed as less of a partner? Surely the next logical step is to ban all partners that are employed in jobs of a Junior position, first to go will have to be those employed in Junior Rank jobs within the military. The girls from the Accounts and petrol coupon office, they are doing LCpl jobs. The BFG ladies, jobs normally done by a Cpl. Clerical assistants in the Admin Office, Cpl. Why should we stop there, anyone employed in the NAAFI, shop assistant or cleaning job surely can not be classed as higher than a Cpl, so the girls from the PRI are out. How about the unemployed, they can surely not be classed as senior to those in employment otherwise no one would ever get a job as it lowers your standard in life. Who is left? If a partner according to the Presiding Member has to justify her position in the mess in her own right why not have it as a members only and not allow any guests at all. In April 2004 the RSM of 16 Signal Regiment is supposed to takes over as presiding member of Elmpt Station Sgts Mess, lets all hope that he is strong enough to deal with these out dated discriminatory ways, lets look forward not back at the past ways all the time. Be interested in hearing any one elses views on this subject, I know there are several couples in the Sgts Mess effected by this daft decision.