Disabled Spouse

#1
I am trying to find out how I stand as the primary carer for my now disabled spouse. There appears to be very little guidence out there as regards what kind of support I am entitled to. There is loads of info if it is your child that has special needs but nothing at all if it is your spouse.

Any help in this matter would be greatly appreciated.
 

Percy_Pigeon

War Hero
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#2
I have the same problem Mrs Pigeon is 38% disabled after an accident at work. I got pinged at 3 weeks notice for a tour so I never followed it up, so I bussed outlaws down and paid for a carer.

I should have followed it through on help, but being the right end of the rank structure I could afford it, it was still a severe burden though.

The neighbours and friends (both Mil and civi) were TOP, and I couldn’t have asked for more.

I did however get my grass cut once or twice and some belated visits from the RFO.

I would be interested (net sick) to see what help I could have received.

Just a point to the mocking, I have never missed anything in 17yrs less 1 month when I cashed in my Ren leave and the odd school run.

And WE are proud of it
 
#3
dazz said:
I am trying to find out how I stand as the primary carer for my now disabled spouse. There appears to be very little guidence out there as regards what kind of support I am entitled to. There is loads of info if it is your child that has special needs but nothing at all if it is your spouse.

Any help in this matter would be greatly appreciated.
Have you thought of speaking to Army Welfare or to SSAFA. I'm sure they will be able to give you info or at least point you in the right direction.
 

oldbaldy

LE
Moderator
#4
Forces Special Needs Disability Support Group

The Support Group aims to provide a focus for disability and special needs issues within the armed forces.

The membership is free and open to:

* parents of children with special needs and disabilities
* serving personnel with a disability
* partners of service personnel with a disability and carers

Associate membership is available to:

* professionals
* volunteers
* local or national disabilities groups who are interested in supporting Service families

you will receive regular information on topics of interest, a quarterly newsletter and can also be put in touch with other members for support or to exchange information.
http://www.ssafa.org.uk/specialNeeds.html
 
#5
AGAI 108 - Care of Service Personnel with Disabled and Special Needs (SN) Dependants exists for circumstances like yours Dazz. However, most people don't know it exists. The key point is

a. Require a service person, who has a dependant with professionally diagnosed SN or disabilities or Statement of Special Educational Needs (SEN), to notify the Chain of Command through unit adminstrative procedures in order that outline details may be included within the Service person's Record of Service (ROS)

If you fail to notify the Chain of Command you are on your own and if you do notify your Chain of Command you are still on your own because they don't know about this AGAI and don't follow their own rules. Anyone who comes under this AGAI is meant to have an annual interview with their CO, have it annotated on their annual CR (box 8 on AF B2048) and be consulted during the posting process. If you are unable to fulfil the obligations they deem necessary to your capbadge they can transfer you.

SSAFA in the UK aren't designed/set up for Army personnel as thats what AWS is for and AWS aren't interested unless they get a request from your unit to underake a report.

My son has special needs and my unit was informed about his condition as soon as we realised he might have a "problem" back in Sept 2003 - three months after I started in my current post. I have still never seen my CO, my annual CR says nothing and MCM still try and post me wherever they want. I gave up asking about AGAI 108 because I was fed up with the Chain of Command asking what it was :lol:
 
#6
dazz said:
I am trying to find out how I stand as the primary carer for my now disabled spouse. There appears to be very little guidence out there as regards what kind of support I am entitled to. There is loads of info if it is your child that has special needs but nothing at all if it is your spouse.

Any help in this matter would be greatly appreciated.
Try this link, they are the experts, they certainly helped me

http://www.youreable.com/forums/forum.jspa?forumID=1
Good luck
 
#7
tafmad said:
dazz said:
I am trying to find out how I stand as the primary carer for my now disabled spouse. There appears to be very little guidence out there as regards what kind of support I am entitled to. There is loads of info if it is your child that has special needs but nothing at all if it is your spouse.

Any help in this matter would be greatly appreciated.
Try this link, they are the experts, they certainly helped me

http://www.youreable.com/forums/forum.jspa?forumID=1
Good luck
The your able site is really quite good and worth joining (probably best not to mention your an arrse boarder though) we're not very popular right now.

Another place you might try is the Royal British legion.

Hope everyting works out ok for you both, Living with a disabilty can really put a strain on both of you.

Regards
 
#9
fooboy said:
A mate of mine has a disabled boy and the ArmyMOD bend over backwards for him. they have adapted a house at the cost of 60.000 put him in a post near all the specialist hospitals. The post he is in has been made up and he can keep that post until his time runs out.
Glad to hear that about your mate - about time someone was treated right. DHE as a rule are great for adapting properties or making necessary changes it's the usual lack of support from units which I find amazing. Although like everything else this support will depend on your capbade and trade I guess.
 

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