Has anyone answered the question? Can you opt out of the mess or not? I read the responses many were funny but can we opt out? Been in many messes myself but now find I am unaccompanied, and having letters of none attendance denied. With less than a few years left, no longer care for my career just want to get home to see the family. Its not that i don't like the mess, just wonder do i have to spend time and money being some where i don't want to be?