Ladies and gents, I know that i'm probably going to get shot down in flames over this but i really need some SENSIBLE advice. After the break up of marriage in July, i went into a reactive clinical depression that resulted in me expressing suicidal thoughts, seeking help from my CofC, padre etc. Up-shot was i was sent to a care home for a couple of weeks. Now i know there is no such thing as a quick fix, but at the moment i'm struggling to control my anger. After we broke up, my wife had a one-night stand with an odius little scumbag who's been sniffing around her since they were children. He's been trying to get into her since we split up, and took his chance one night when she was drunk and depressed. I know we are apart, and actually it was me who caused the split, but all I want to do is find this fella, and beat him to within an inch of his life. I have so much rage inside me, but i don't where to aim it. If i turn it inward i get really down again, it's not fair to aim it at my wife, i try and work it out in the gym and end up exercising to extremes, if i turned to booze then i don't know where it'd end up. The thing is I know this blokes home and mobile number and his home address, the only thing thats stopped me going round already is that i don't want my kids labelled with the stigma of having a dad who's inside, or them having to visit me in prison. How do I get rid of this anger? Please help.