Depression and Other Mental Health Issues

I have to admit that I think I'm sliding a slippery slope in regards to my mental health.

Last week, I came back from a great holiday and had a wonderful time. A couple of days ago, I had a hospital appointment to get the results of some scans taken.

I've been informed that I will probably be in a wheelchair within the next 3-5 years as my spine deteriorates. I'm no stranger to surgery but I've been told surgery to help my condition is too "extreme" for the NHS and there's nothing really doing.

I've been on a few different SSRI's in the past and they've all given me almighty headaches and I don't want to really go back on them but at the moment I can't see any other way around it all.
 
I have to admit that I think I'm sliding a slippery slope in regards to my mental health.

Last week, I came back from a great holiday and had a wonderful time. A couple of days ago, I had a hospital appointment to get the results of some scans taken.

I've been informed that I will probably be in a wheelchair within the next 3-5 years as my spine deteriorates. I'm no stranger to surgery but I've been told surgery to help my condition is too "extreme" for the NHS and there's nothing really doing.

I've been on a few different SSRI's in the past and they've all given me almighty headaches and I don't want to really go back on them but at the moment I can't see any other way around it all.
Good to see that you have opened up on here mate. Have you anyone that you can discuss your issues with ?.
 
@Ritch you know where I am mate, I’ll even start playing battlefield 4 again.

Saying that battlefield 3 was the daddy,
 
Good to see that you have opened up on here mate. Have you anyone that you can discuss your issues with ?.
I've got family but they've got major issues of their own and a few are emotionally retarded anyway. I've never really confided in my family. I have a few friends who I can talk with. I think I just have to sort my own head out before I can do that. I've made an appointment to see my GP anyway.

@Ritch you know where I am mate, I’ll even start playing battlefield 4 again.

Saying that battlefield 3 was the daddy,
I'm not on half as much now. I can't concentrate long enough so I'm usually only on about 90-120 minutes. But cheers anyway!
 
I've got family but they've got major issues of their own and a few are emotionally retarded anyway. I've never really confided in my family. I have a few friends who I can talk with. I think I just have to sort my own head out before I can do that. I've made an appointment to see my GP anyway.

Good move mate, make sure that you push your case, if you can not get access to NHS help inquire if there are any charitable organisations in your area that could be of assistance to you.
 
This might be of interest or helpful for some people:

Suicide prevention and peer support in the armed forces: A pocket guide by the Samaritans

The guide, jointly launched by Samaritans and the Ministry of Defence, builds on the range of support already available to service personnel who are struggling with their mental health, including access to specialist mental health medical care, training and education on good mental fitness and the Combat Stress 24-hour Mental Health Helpline.

My two personal takes:

1. TALK TO SOMEONE. Anyone really, but just talk. On the other side of the coin be prepared to listen.

2. Rather than remember the list, just remember the security thing: Absence of the normal, presence of the abnormal. Pay attention, think, and flag it up.
 
Published: September 10, 2018

Tobias Ellwood: On this World Suicide Prevention Day, let’s shatter the mental health taboo – among our armed forces and everywhere else

"Our Armed Forces need to be fit for military operations. But operational fitness is not just about being physically fit; our people also need to be mentally fit and reliant."

"A third of us are likely to experience some form of mental illness during our lifetime which, left unaddressed, can lead to a loss of self-esteem and isolation – spiralling towards tragic consequences. So, we need to be more open about mental well-being, not least in the macho environment of the Armed Forces."

Full article at link below:

Tobias Ellwood: On this World Suicide Prevention Day, let’s shatter the mental health taboo – among our armed forces and everywhere else | Conservative Home

Tobias Elwood also provides a link to the guide highlighted by @Yokel in his post above.
 
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Depressed as **** a bit today, thinking about some old shit. Not good.

Could've used a drink, which doesn't really help. Not that I want to drink anyways, since I promised myself I won't touch it till Nov.

Whiling away my time on ARRSE to take my mind of things. Hope everyone is doing well.
 
I start on the happy pills in the morning :-(

The descent into winter always gets me down and I've noticed that this year I'm starting from a lower point. I tried upping the herbal stuff, but it doesn't seem to be working.

The last two weeks at work have been shit, my workload has become impossible and I'm witnessing a bullying agenda amongst some other staff, I've had 2 sleepless nights in the past week, both concerning work. I emailed the boss yesterday, pointing out that I am suffering from work related stress, so that's me covered if I throw my keys at a numpty telling them to do a better job. He hasn't answered, but now the company know, they have a duty of care.

Doctor called at lunchtime prior to the 17:30 visit to make sure she would have the crisis team involved if needed. She has told me that a sick note is ready if I need to get out.

Surprisingly, this morning at work seemed rather sedate, but I spent the whole afternoon fixing other peoples fuckups, therefore pushing my work onto 2 others, 1 of whom is the target of the bullying, the other is a lazy ****. I may need that sick note.

But... I did go for a run this evening :)

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I start on the happy pills in the morning :-(

The descent into winter always gets me down and I've noticed that this year I'm starting from a lower point. I tried upping the herbal stuff, but it doesn't seem to be working.

The last two weeks at work have been shit, my workload has become impossible and I'm witnessing a bullying agenda amongst some other staff, I've had 2 sleepless nights in the past week, both concerning work. I emailed the boss yesterday, pointing out that I am suffering from work related stress, so that's me covered if I throw my keys at a numpty telling them to do a better job. He hasn't answered, but now the company know, they have a duty of care.

Doctor called at lunchtime prior to the 17:30 visit to make sure she would have the crisis team involved if needed. She has told me that a sick note is ready if I need to get out.

Surprisingly, this morning at work seemed rather sedate, but I spent the whole afternoon fixing other peoples fuckups, therefore pushing my work onto 2 others, 1 of whom is the target of the bullying, the other is a lazy ****. I may need that sick note.

But... I did go for a run this evening :)

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Hope you feel better with your pills bro. And yes, end of summer and the slow descent into winter always brings people like us a bit down.
 

Legs

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The weather changing as summer fades has a really stultifying effect. I worry (see if you can spot the irony in this one!) that the unusually glorious summer we've had up here in Scotland is going to have an even greater effect on my moods and worries. I always make my plans as summer draws down. Plans of how this year I'll come up with new and wondrous strategies to combat the effect. Every. Damn. Year. And you know what? Nope. Nothing works. So I'll spend every day in my workshop, heater on and lights blazing. I'll spend all evening with the darkness oppressively shrouding the world outside my window. I'll spend every night with thousands, millions of thoughts rushing around in my head.

My Psych tells me that this is normal, that this is how many people are affected. But it isn't normal when you are praying that the blackness outside will take you into itself and stop these hateful thoughts in my head.
 
Just another reminder of Seasonal Affected Disorder. Lamps are available which do help many with SAD.
SAD can affect people in different ways from just feeling a lack of get up and go through to depression.

I have not tried light boxes (desk lamps occasionally) so cannot make any claims but there must be others on here who have used them and can advise.

Seasonal Affective Disorder | SAD Lights & Lamps | Light Therapy
Tips on How to Buy a SAD Light - Light Therapy
10 best SAD lamps

While on the subject of winter, I have been taking vitamin D tablets over the past year. Something to think about if you are not getting much sun. Vit D does a lot of good stuff.
 
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This put a smile on my face

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As someone with experience of MH issues, including more than a few family members afflicted, it summed it up for me.
 
Legs...best wishes and I hope your feeling better.
I have previously been diagnosed with ptsd.
I have learned some very helpful things.
PTSD is self limiting. It has a shelf life. It eases with time.
My story is...
I am over 50. I train every day. I have three lovers all women who know about each other and all love me. I have been engaged three times and married once. I have seven children all great kids. I can fook all night till sunrise..on viagra. I can mma fight for over an hour. I still have strong potential to be a serial killer..I really try to abstain from fighting bullies. . Life can be a complete bastard. I have learned to be a bigger one. I might drop dead one day...but fook it Im going to enjoy the ride until then.
Exercise burns off the adrenalin that is at the core of anxiety.
My list..
1. Exercise every day..beast your body to fook seriously...burn it burn it burn it.
2. Deep relaxation every day.
3. Sit on a bus or a train along with all cultures and deeply relax. This helps you to regain trust in your interprrsonal world.
4. Look at trees...a tree has a 'fractal' pattern. This pattern quietens the mind. Any pattern will do just rest your eyes on it and relax.
5. Families are a complete fooking nightmare of horrible traumatic thankless pain. Get the fook out the door...mcdonalds coffee and egg mcmuffin in the morning are helpful.
6. If your wifes a bitch....run like ****...you WILL recover and find love again.
7. Become a 'slight' sociopath...learn the poker face...master your emotions and NEVER be a bully.
8. Love your kids....I tried like hells fury in every court to have contact with mine and I regret none of my efforts.
9. Watch other people on trains and buses...this one is crucial...watch how people...stare gently into space and quieten their minds. Most soldiers are so 'hyper vigilant'..that they stop doing this skill to re-charge their minds. Forgive yourself and go do things you enjoy.
10. Eat fruit and healthy meals..reduce alcohol intake and as my ninety year old Grandad did..only have take aways once a week.
11. Buy some baby powder and give yourself a massage.sprinkle the baby powder on your body and massage it into your muscles...the smell itself is aromatherapy...then after your massage listen to this.....every day...
Paul McKenna is a diamond.
Have sex..its fooking awesome.
STOP..listening to bullshit news everybthirty minutes in the car...this brainwashing shiiitt..usually chosen by enraged man hating female newsreaders is usualy 'always' started with....today a man did....dont listen to this biased shittt storm every thirty minutes...makes me fooking angry..they never say fook all about what women do that's 'bad'.
Oh and do exciting stuff and laugh to yourself afterwards...
Best wishes to you





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I was talking to someone this afternoon who’s cousin through himself under a train 6 Oct. Her brother is now in care, due to being suicidal.

I spent a lot of time at GMP on welfare issues. We are very fortunate in this day and age that there is much less (stress less) stigma about mental health issues- no matter how they originate.

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Just got the news a good friend of mine took his own life today, excellent climber, all round good egg, rest easy mate.
 
Just got the news a good friend of mine took his own life today, excellent climber, all round good egg, rest easy mate.
Won’t add a like, for obvious reasons. So difficult to understand what’s going on in your own head, let alone other people’s.

I was fortunate enough that was close colleagues who spotted I wasn’t myself.
 

StBob072

LE
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I've just been reminded by an excellent video posted on FB about the "black dog". I'll try and post if I can.

One thing I've learned over the years is that the "black dog" is just like any other dog. It needs firm handling as early as possible. Don't let it indulge itself because its easier that way. Grip it, and show it who is boss.
 

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