Gone are the days when the TA was a weekend drinking club, since the goal posts have been moved it is now a given that all TA soldiers will be faced with the prospect of operational deployment. TA or Regular Soldier, leaving family behind is never easy. However as a Regular Soldier is it more accepted as the inevitable by the family unit therefore support is unquestionable? How do you sell the idea of deployment to your family, i.e. leaving them for 6 months/9 months approx (inc pre deployment training)? How do you explain choosing/voluntarily breaking the 9 to 5 normality to leave them? Faced with the prospect I am coming up against objections from all sides. The idea of it being something Iâve always wanted to do, the sense of achievement, the experience etc etc etc is coming across as very selfish. My other half is ex-reg and signed off for the sole reason of providing a stable environment for our familyâ¦.yet here I am choosing to leave. I understand everyoneâs personal circumstances are very different but to those that have done itâ¦.. how did you sell the idea so that it was win win all round, is that possible?