My brother in law died suddenly yesterday morning, cause not yet known but i suspect an aneuysm (excuse spelling). he would have been 39 a week today, just qualified as a personal trainer and has a 5 year old son. his other half (my wifes sister) is 28 and has MS. Full story is that he got home from his job at the gym (an 8 mile cycle ride) around half ten Thurs night, speaking to Sis in law from the kitchen when she heard a thud. She goes in to find him on his back, blood pouring from his mouth and in his eyes. Ambulance is called, as well as her parents who live 5 minutes away, dad bringing his kit with him as he was a St Johsn first responder and he begins CPR. 999 arrives, more cpr, including shocks is done all to no avail, i think he was DOA at the hospital. Sis in law watches the whole thing. 5 yr old sleeps through the whole thing, a blessing in my eyes. Sis later has to formally identify him at the hospital, didnt sleep and spent yesterday phoning his friends remaining family etc to advise. Both his parents died when he was in his teens. Obviously the whole family is in shock, and there are no magic words to make it all better, but i have limited experience in dealing with bereavement. Is there any decent practical advice on what i can do to help things pass day by day? Please please please dont scribble on this thread, its not in the naafi for a reason. If you dont have anything practical to day, dont say it.