I'm an ex tom of 12 years and have recently met and fallen for a really nice lady. Problem is, shes a serving Naval officer and pretty career minded as well. I've just been invited to a mess function and the thought terrifies me - I've waited at the ******* things and I've done all the stuff we all used to get up to including ******* the drinks of obnoxious guests!! Can our worlds ever be compatible given the total differecne in our backgrounds? I dont want to lose her but part of me is quite intimidated which, for an ex reg tom is not really the done thing. Confused of Chorley....... Thanks for any serious advice in advance.