I'm serving in BFG, married accompanied with one child aged 12, the other is a serving soldier in the UK. Last week my wife woke up thinking she had trapped a nerve in her face - no feeling & drooping mouth. Later in the morning in the Med Centre she had a stroke. The medics were brilliant, up to & inc the Lt Col & civvy doc. The German Emergency crew were excellent - they all helped to save her life and certainly made me feel someone cared. Thanks to you all. Once I had got my head straight I went about notifying the relatives and contacted my son who was on ex in the North. He obviously wanted to see his mum so I contacted the compassionate cell in Upavon, only to be told that the Army would do nothing to help as my wifes NOK (ME) was by her bedside! Fcuk her serving soldier son, he didn't count. Their advice was "contact his unit they may give him some time off, but he will have to pay his own way". His unit werre excellent, drove him back home & onto an indulgence flight, all arranged and paid for from unit funds. My point for raising my dirty laundry in public is this: At a time when the Army is fighting hard to retain its soldiers and trying to present itself as a caring and well intentioned employer, why do we have a system that prevents any serving soldier from being re-uinited with his family during times of acute illness AND, why do we have such idiots with no actual successful experience sitting in the compassionate cell at Upavon?