Can i leave early.

#1
Iv been in my regiment for 4 months now, and iv discovered that the army life just is not for me. Im 32 and have 2 kids and a mortgage, im not seeing my kids very much, plus the pay , im finding it hard financially. All these things together is making me very unmotivated, and i just want to be a civvie again. Is there any way i can do this, or am i stuck for the next 4 years. Any replys with info will be appreciated.
 
#2
hoof said:
Iv been in my regiment for 4 months now, and iv discovered that the army life just is not for me. Im 32 and have 2 kids and a mortgage, im not seeing my kids very much, plus the pay , im finding it hard financially. All these things together is making me very unmotivated, and i just want to be a civvie again. Is there any way i can do this, or am i stuck for the next 4 years. Any replys with info will be appreciated.
Surely this thought cropped up at some point in the joining-up process?
 
#3
hoof said:
Iv been in my regiment for 4 months now, and iv discovered that the army life just is not for me. Im 32 and have 2 kids and a mortgage, im not seeing my kids very much, plus the pay , im finding it hard financially. All these things together is making me very unmotivated, and i just want to be a civvie again. Is there any way i can do this, or am i stuck for the next 4 years. Any replys with info will be appreciated.
Have you visited the Padre and/or the Welfare Officer?

Have you discussed the issue with your Troopie?

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#4
You can leave right now if you wish. If anyone has any problems with this then tell them that I said you could :)
 
#5
Stop crying and get on with the soldiering. You have only been there for four months.
 
#6
Whilst I am sympathetic to your situation I have but to wonder why you've gone through the whole process just to jack now?

Get a pad and move the Wife and kids in. Sell/rent the house. Simple.
 
#10
hoof said:
It is a serious thing for me. so thanks for the helpul replys, but sarcastic ones are just not funny
Then why did you ask the question on here? Sarcastic replies and ARRSE go together! Trust me, I was also very close to sarcasm!

Edited to add: You are not a newbie, so if I were to search your posts, I assume that they would all be sarcasm-free?

Have you discusssed this with anyone outside of Arrse?

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MIA
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#11
hoof said:
It is a serious thing for me. so thanks for the helpul replys, but sarcastic ones are just not funny
They make me giggle!
 
#12
hoof said:
Iv been in my regiment for 4 months now, and iv discovered that the army life just is not for me. Im 32 and have 2 kids and a mortgage, im not seeing my kids very much, plus the pay , im finding it hard financially. All these things together is making me very unmotivated, and i just want to be a civvie again. Is there any way i can do this, or am i stuck for the next 4 years. Any replys with info will be appreciated.
32..... Man up.
 
#13
Why dont u get a married quarter as someone above suggested, sell the house, yer wife must know wot u got yerself into, will she not follow you when posted etc ? If you really want out, PVR, but i cant remem how long you have to do b4 you can do that and it takes a year, or buy yerself out, again, cant remem how long you have to do b4 u can do that either. Get yerself over to the families officer, quick sharp.
 
#15
Dandy-Angus said:
Why dont u get a married quarter as someone above suggested, sell the house, yer wife must know wot u got yerself into, will she not follow you when posted etc ? If you really want out, PVR, but i cant remem how long you have to do b4 you can do that and it takes a year, or buy yerself out, again, cant remem how long you have to do b4 u can do that either. Get yerself over to the families officer, quick sharp.
You cannot now buy yourself out. The only reason I am still in is that I could never save enough money to buy myself out.... :D

The initial contract is for 4 years.

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Legs

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#16
hoof said:
Iv been in my regiment for 4 months now, and iv discovered that the army life just is not for me. Im 32 and have 2 kids and a mortgage, im not seeing my kids very much, plus the pay , im finding it hard financially. All these things together is making me very unmotivated, and i just want to be a civvie again. Is there any way i can do this, or am i stuck for the next 4 years. Any replys with info will be appreciated.
Are you that stupid that you didn't think of any of this before you joined? Are you? For crying out loud, you're 32 - act like it!! You are now in a job where (unless you fuck up big style) your pay will only go up - and you knew the pay scales before you joined. You can get subsidised housing for you and your family (so you don't need a mortgage).

Fucking grow up and get on with your job. Or are you going to be one of those soft shits that goes crying to Padre for an early discharge of (ahem) welfare grounds? Tosser.
 
#17
A few questions:

are you renting out your house?
does your spouse work?
what trade and class are you?
how many vehicles do you own?
are you uk based?

we had a soldier in my old regt who we helped out, v similar issues, if u want pm me
 
#18
Legs said:
hoof said:
Iv been in my regiment for 4 months now, and iv discovered that the army life just is not for me. Im 32 and have 2 kids and a mortgage, im not seeing my kids very much, plus the pay , im finding it hard financially. All these things together is making me very unmotivated, and i just want to be a civvie again. Is there any way i can do this, or am i stuck for the next 4 years. Any replys with info will be appreciated.
Are you that stupid that you didn't think of any of this before you joined? Are you? For crying out loud, you're 32 - act like it!! You are now in a job where (unless you fuck up big style) your pay will only go up - and you knew the pay scales before you joined. You can get subsidised housing for you and your family (so you don't need a mortgage).

Fucking grow up and get on with your job. Or are you going to be one of those soft shits that goes crying to Padre for an early discharge of (ahem) welfare grounds? Tosser.
Exactly what I wanted to say but couldn't be arsed.
 
#19
If you want sympathy try the dictionary. You volunteered. You sound like a cry baby, FFS you claim to be 32 years old! Start acting like an adult and stop whinging and you might find you start to enjoy it.

I might have had some sympathy if you are a 16 year old, but at 32 you are supposed to be a grown up.
 

B_AND_T

MIA
Book Reviewer
#20
I wish you make your mind up. In November you wanted to transfer.
 

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