Can A Relationship Work And Be Healthy In The Military?

The_Snail

ADC
RIP
There was a troop at 35 engr regt, their sports afternoon was everyone had to be in a bar down town. There was serious shit if people weren't there.
It must have been awful.

I bet @CaptainRidiculous has something to say about it.

A hundred times.

He is an NSCC.
 
The question you should perhaps be asking yourself is 'as I'm in a serious relationship and thinking about it's impact in my career, am I sufficiently committed to the RAF?'

Dependent up your specialisation, I also wouldn't assume you'll be working Mon-Fri or that you'll get anything like 6 weeks annual leave.

May I ask what branch or trade you're joining?

Regards,
MM
Aircrew, WSOp, I was just going by what the RAF website said and people I've spoken to but I am well aware that things may not always pan out like that.
 

FailyScaley

War Hero
There is very little more satisfying than threading it into some crab's Doris, so I say go for it.
 
If you're joining up then your focus needs to be on that, I had a girlfriend through basic at Swinderby but then at Cosford after a few weeks of trade training and her incessant bitching we parted ways as I needed to spend time passing the course and all she did was complain that I had no time to spend on her. She gave me an ultimatum and I choose a life of being a liney, drinking heavily, behaving badly and banging any woman that would let me. Glad I did too, I saw her a couple of years ago and she has clearly had a successful career dodging salads.

If you're going aircrew that is going to need you to focus, if you can handle a relationship on top of that then fair play to you. I know some lads who did, but they were the minority. But if there is a doubt in your mind, choose the career. You'll only get one shot at it, but there are plenty of women out there.
 
Aircrew, WSOp, I was just going by what the RAF website said and people I've spoken to but I am well aware that things may not always pan out like that.

Firstly, let's be frank: whether you join up or not, few 'established' relationships last beyond the first Xmas at uni.

Meanwhile, aircrew is a particularly demanding training pipeline and it needs to be your primary focus. While you will get more weekends off the further through training you go, there will also be a significant requirement for study and planning. Likewise, the amount of leave you get will depend on how your training dovetails.

On one hand, you may get sent on a 'holding' post while you await your next course in which case there may be some latitude for additional time off. More likely is that that there'll be little opportunity between Halton, OACTU, 45 Sqn and OCU for leave and you may get less than 6 weeks. As a stude, you have to suck that up.

I knew people during training who tried to balance girlfriend with career and in the end most ended up with neither. My advice therefore is:

1. Wait to see if you get selected in the first place.
2. Give the relationship a go.
3. Expect to grow apart as you each go your separate ways and grow up (which you will each do an awful lot of at uni and in the forces).
4. You're 18 so any relationship right now is unlikely to be 'the one'.
5. At that age the male is genetically pre-disposed to be drinking, partying and shagging lots so don't worry about it.

Finally, and most importantly, if you want to fly then your training has to be your priority.

In summary, it's perfectly possible to have a 'healthy' relationship in the forces. However, the one you're thinking about right now is extremely unlikely to survive her going to uni let alone you joining the forces.

There are lots of bints in the World. However, you'll only get one go at aircrew.

Regards,
MM
 
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If 'The Military' wants you to have a wife/girlfriend/boyfriend then it will issue you with one.
 

theoriginalphantom

MIA
Book Reviewer
This post's over an hour and a half old and nobody has stressed the need for photographs of said bint to reach a meaningful conclusion.
Get a grip you bunch of new age weirdos.


Oh, RAF. Carry on chaps, chocks away etc.

if she's attracted to some chap who's about to attempt to join the RAF then I don't want to see what she looks like.
 
Firstly, let's be frank: whether you join up or not, few 'established' relationships last beyond the first Xmas at uni.

Meanwhile, aircrew is a particularly demanding training pipeline and it needs to be your primary focus. While you will get more weekends off the further through training you go, there will also be a significant requirement for study and planning. Likewise, the amount of leave you get will depend on how your training dovetails.

On one hand, you may get sent on a 'holding' post while you await your next course in which case there may be some latitude for additional time off. More likely is that that there'll be little opportunity between Halton, OACTU, 45 Sqn and OCU for leave and you may get less than 6 weeks. As a stude, you have to suck that up.

I knew people during training who tried to balance girlfriend with career and in the end most ended up with neither. My advice therefore is:

1. Wait to see if you get selected in the first place.
2. Give the relationship a go.
3. Expect to grow apart as you each go your separate ways and grow up (which you will each do an awful lot of at uni and in the forces).
4. You're 18 so any relationship right now is unlikely to be 'the one'.
5. At that age the male is genetically pre-disposed to be drinking, partying and shagging lots so don't worry about it.

Finally, and most importantly, if you want to fly then your training has to be your priority.

In summary, it's perfectly possible to have a 'healthy' relationship in the forces. However, the one you're thinking about right now is extremely unlikely to survive her going to uni let alone you joining the forces.

There are lots of bints in the World. However, you'll only get one go at aircrew.

Regards,
MM
Absolutely, my focus would obviously be on my training 100%, if I were picked there would be no way I'd take that chance for granted. I am definitely not saying she'll be 'the one' what so ever and I'm aware that the majority of relationships at our age won't ever progress to anything substantial but thinking about it I think I'm more trying to find out if it's worth the attempt with her or if I should just leave it. Really appreciate the advice and opinion.

If you're joining up then your focus needs to be on that, I had a girlfriend through basic at Swinderby but then at Cosford after a few weeks of trade training and her incessant bitching we parted ways as I needed to spend time passing the course and all she did was complain that I had no time to spend on her. She gave me an ultimatum and I choose a life of being a liney, drinking heavily, behaving badly and banging any woman that would let me. Glad I did too, I saw her a couple of years ago and she has clearly had a successful career dodging salads.

If you're going aircrew that is going to need you to focus, if you can handle a relationship on top of that then fair play to you. I know some lads who did, but they were the minority. But if there is a doubt in your mind, choose the career. You'll only get one shot at it, but there are plenty of women out there.

Yeah, as I said above, training would definitely take priority. Us being something came up in conversation a month or so ago but I said to her that I didn't think I'd have the time and we'd struggle and she was understanding and we agreed on it but we've kept speaking since then and grown even closer so just thought I'd find out some opinions of those who have the experience before I made any decisions or got anything set in my head. Thanks.
 
To answer the question.
Yes it can work.
Does it often?
No.
But it can.
 
Aircrew, WSOp, I was just going by what the RAF website said and people I've spoken to but I am well aware that things may not always pan out like that.

I'll correct my initial statement.

If your blue suit has an aircrew brevet on it, women will not throw knickers at you, they'll have dissolved so they would just throw their entire minge at you instead.
 
I'll correct my initial statement.

If your blue suit has an aircrew brevet on it, women will not throw knickers at you, they'll have dissolved so they would just throw their entire minge at you instead.

Its true. Aircrew get that many women literally throwing their minge's at them they end up covered in them from head to toe. This why, whenever we liney's saw them approach from a distance for a see out we would say "Here come the fannies then"

True story.
 
Its true. Aircrew get that many women literally throwing their minge's at them they end up covered in them from head to toe. This why, whenever we liney's saw them approach from a distance for a see out we would say "Here come the fannies then"

True story.

Always fun getting jezzered when you're strapping them in...
 
She will have more cocks than John Wayne's shotgun.
 

3RRF_FUSILIER

Old-Salt
Join up and see where the relationship ends up. The odds are against it lasting but you may be the exception to the rule.

Sounds like she is doing her thing at Uni so why are you considering giving up your dream, career, future?
 

3RRF_FUSILIER

Old-Salt
........just to add. I went out the Saturday night before I joined the Army at 16 on the Monday.

Met a beautiful little thing at the club and started dating. It lasted about 3 and a half years until I got bored. (Thats young men for ya!) We are both happily married now and I meet her regularly for a coffee or a meal. You just never know where life will lead you.........its worth a try but just know it's likely to not.

Ohh and she is still a sort!! ;-]
 
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