I had the same problem! I solved it by trawling through all my past alerts until I found the one saying "GrownupRafbrat has started a private conversation with you". Click on the words 'private conversation' and all will be revealed!
Don't ask me why private conversations can't be found! I must have overlooked something!
Yay! I currently live 27 miles from Louth and have just finished writing a novel (commercial fiction/adventure thriller 90,000 words - motorcycle riding ex-soldier with a tankful of friends but running low on trust, is dragged from his idyllic lifestyle into a bear trap of love, death and deceit type of novel) ) where the protagonist lives... in Louth!
I like Hereford, relocated here 14 years ago and decided to stay. Beautiful countryside, good food, friendly people.....shops are fine for me but Cardiff is not far away for more variety. I used to go shopping to Shrewsbury and Worcester but haven’t been to either since the new development opened.