Sometimes you think the only option is to turn your back. Ive got children from previous relationship who i see regularly and live with me half the week - had my own place. Amicable with their mum and get on well. Now couple years ago I started a relationship with a girl I had known for a while and things moved quickly. My kids got on fairly well with hers (although two of hers were snidey little scrotes at times). So she asked me to move in with her... I paid for a garage conversion to free up one room so my sons could stay. I paid the mortgage, food, days out etc...didnt have a problem with it ...All good so far...planning on getting hitched etc...then she falls pregnant....also wasnt a problem... Now I knew she was sort of person who liked to get her own way and it ranckled her that i didnt let her all the time...so when the midwife appointments came along and i missed some because of work, some because impossible to get from dropping my sons off 20 miles away in morning and get back to appointment...she saw it as having no interest in our unborn son...some of appointments she made at a time which would clash with picking them up. She then saw me missing appointments as favouritism towards my sons and the ex...bonkers....she then said she couldnt cope with mine in the house as she was stressed. I then had to see them elsewhere which i did briefly thinking things would blow over. But they didnt..more highly strung she got..slightest thing would set her off...didnt matter that xmas time I was working from 2100 - 1000+ in order to spend some quality time at home... Was told wouldnt be at the birth then she relented.. then she puts father unknown on birth certificate... So **** it I moved out...got things back on track with other sons and work etc. She then refused to let me see our son unless I would alter my times with seeing the others but even that wasnt enough. She wanted money which I give and even saying I would have him regularly each week not enough. Problem is she will do to him in later life what she did to her ex's kids and feed him lies..very sad. And as for the 3.5k on the conversion....wonder if I can get that back if I had nothing signed by her? And surely its dodgy that she is claiming benefits, knows full well Im the father and has stated as such but has put father unknown on birth certificate?? Some people I think will always be bitter.