I went to see my bezzer,didn't call him first.His wife,32,answered the door.Just dressed in a thigh length Snoopy T shirt,and a welcoming smile. "He's away for a few days" says she.So were in the kitchen having tea.She starts crying.I am the first friendly face she has seen in ages,their marriage is heading for the rocks,she is so frustrated,she needs some company etc etc.I give her a hug,she kisses me. I leave the house.I have an open invitation to see her whenever I want. So the obvious question.Should I? I have known these two for over ten years.And I really like them both.He is non-military,and dosen't do Arrse.Anyone else been in this situation?