And perhaps that is the clearest illustration of the dilemma so far:I think that being judgemental is part of the human condition. Of course, those judgements may be wrong.
I was in a McDonalds a while ago (don't judge) and my son was kicking off big time, due to the noise, the crush of bodies and the buzzing from the fluorescent tubes. Some woman said to her daughter: "That kid needs a good smacked behind." I replied: "Oh really? Would you ring "The Lancet" and let them know that you've found a cure for autism? Just give 'em a belt - that's where I've been going wrong."
Her face flushed as red as a traffic light and she couldn't look at me. I may've mentioned the words bitch and ignorant, although not necessarily in that order.
And perhaps that is the clearest illustration of the dilemma so far:
Judgmental 1 = random woman makes an immediate assumption and is judgmental about a parent who appears to be unable or unwilling to control their child to the detriment of her enjoyment and is 'offended' by the intrusion.
Judgmental 2 = Parent of a child who, due to invisible medical circumstances, is distressed at the environment and responds in the only way their condition permits, does not react well to this judgmental attitude and responds in kind.
'Judgment' of the matter poses two questions:
1. Did the parent, as controlling adult, consider the likelihood of such an environment causing such a reaction from their child and how they might mitigate the effect on others sharing that social space? Has it happened before?
2. Did the onlooking woman consider that there may be an underlying reason and check the rush to judgment? If not, why not?
And yes, I am probably exercising poor judgment wading into a topic where personal illustrations are at play. But I'll offer a proposition; the energy of judgmentalist's pronouncements underlying the 'us' 'not us' dichotomy will increase in proportion to the population increase, as space becomes more crowded. The McDonalds analogy being an illustration.
Thank you for the prompt, I missed the underlying point raised by that question at first, but better late than never.Are you one of those Chinese spammers ?