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At the end of a relationship.......

#1
Question...probably asked before, but remember I'm new so try to be gentle...When a "relationship" or some sort of hanging-out-together ends, why do men avoid just coming out and leveling with the woman about the reason, instead of withdrawing and avoiding her? Personally, I'd rather have someone tell me they've met or want to meet someone else, moved on in their life and want different things, need some space because they feel trapped, or whatever the reason. Most women have pretty good psyches and self-confidence...therefore can take the truth (tactfully phrased) without turning into a screaming banshee. Personally, I find it's far more difficult for something to end and wonder what happened.

A similar behavior is a guy saying "I'll call you" and never does...it should only be said if meant.

I'd like the British view on this...perhaps you're more communicative than Canadian men???? :?
 
#4
Very true i'm sure in some cases and i cant answer the question as to why people do this, but you might be surprised to find out that women do this as well.

I guess the simple answer is to be honest and not mess folk about?? Life is a puzzle sometimes, whether your Canadian or a Brit!! :roll:
 
#5
RHODESIAN said:
I find its best to keep your options open so if you don't bag off one night you can always get in touch and your sorted!!

Translation please. Does this mean to keep your options open so that if you don't get lucky one night you can always go back to the one you've been ignoring and have sex?
 
#9
susanmg66 said:
RHODESIAN said:
I find its best to keep your options open so if you don't bag off one night you can always get in touch and your sorted!!

Translation please. Does this mean to keep your options open so that if you don't get lucky one night you can always go back to the one you've been ignoring and have sex?
That's basic etiquette for any good man.
 
#11
LOL!!! Cads the lot of you.

Well at least we have the decency to say "Im just not ready for this, it's just too soon, I know I split with my ex 10 years ago but lol.........................................can we still be friends" lol. Not original I know lol.
 
#14
MovCon said:
I've never been good at ending relationships.
maybe us gals should take a leaf outta the guys books, :) they seem to have everything sorted, :!: make it all sound so easy with the use of a mobile phone,keeping options open...very widely open at that :roll: ,and hey abit of the old 'i know iv'e been a tottal cnut but hey we can still be good friends,carnt we?...guess this referes back to the keeping ALL options open 8O
 
#15
Us women couldnt be so cruel lol And (dare I say it) we are a lot braver than men when it comes to that kind of sh*t?

If women were as mean as men perhaps we would send one like this lol.

Hi teeny, I have discussed with my friends and your friends your lovemaking performance and on a scale of 1 to 10 you were a minus so I felt I owed it to myself to dump youre crap sha**ing, sorry little a*se, but I would still like to be friends. Oh and btw get yourself to the clinic LOL.
 
#16
my mate and her guy finished a couple of weeks ago , It just came out that he found someone else i think to be honest he was more upset having to try and explian to her that he had been having fun behind her back .
than she was hearing about it , she knew she had to keep a level head and say she was very pleased for them both even though her and her ex had exchanged friendship rings at christmas.
I think he was so shocked at her response and they both said they loved each other as friends
the thing is she was seeing another guy last year and they lost touch , He is now back on the scene and she is really happy
so it works both ways
 
#17
She dealt with it with great dignity.

I sure Idve punched him full in the face and maybe then said Im really pleased for you both, can we still be friends lol.
 
#18
I have always found it useful to get in with a new bird and whisk my measily possesions away before she comes home.

New bird has a nice flat and I can live and leach of her, even better when she has a flash car and full, fat bank account!

Holidays galore!

On a more serious note..... any young, rich, voloptous wimen out there with a fetish for a good looking con man?
 
#19
Anya5268 said:
Us women couldnt be so cruel lol And (dare I say it) we are a lot braver than men when it comes to that kind of sh*t?

If women were as mean as men perhaps we would send one like this lol.

Hi teeny, I have discussed with my friends and your friends your lovemaking performance and on a scale of 1 to 10 you were a minus so I felt I owed it to myself to dump youre crap sha**ing, sorry little a*se, but I would still like to be friends. Oh and btw get yourself to the clinic LOL.
:D :D :D luv it lol,good one.

the guys always put a whole new meaning to long distance breakups-- :p

i guess its a case of-"women seeking to be equal to men lack ambition' :?:.... ohhh i wish i could be on the frontline.

'men are like fine wine...they start out as grapes,and it is our job to stomp on them,and keep them in the dark, untill they mature into SOMETHING us gals would like to have dinner with. :wink:
 
#20
susanmg66 said:
Question...probably asked before, but remember I'm new so try to be gentle...When a "relationship" or some sort of hanging-out-together ends, why do men avoid just coming out and leveling with the woman about the reason, instead of withdrawing and avoiding her? Personally, I'd rather have someone tell me they've met or want to meet someone else, moved on in their life and want different things, need some space because they feel trapped, or whatever the reason. Most women have pretty good psyches and self-confidence...therefore can take the truth (tactfully phrased) without turning into a screaming banshee. Personally, I find it's far more difficult for something to end and wonder what happened.

A similar behavior is a guy saying "I'll call you" and never does...it should only be said if meant.

I'd like the British view on this...perhaps you're more communicative than Canadian men???? :?
The answer is simple: Its easier to lie than to hurt.

PS, we don't all do it :wink:
 

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