Everybody has their opinions, and that is really good that we do, it would be a very boring world if we were all the same, but we are not, that is what makes us unique. My son was diagnosed with Aspegers when he was nine, before that time nobody had a clue. He is now 17 and I no longer consider him as having Aspergers because I fought to give him the best that he could have, a fairly good education, a doctor that could help and most of all my love and understanding. However, there was a time when he would use his Aspegers as an excuse, made me wild it did, I was so angry with him. I gave him a good clip round the ear and told him to grow up, and make the best of what he had, that he couldn't keep using it as an excuse, and that he should be proud of what he had achieved over the years. I have also helped my friend with her son who had ADHD and Tourette's, and he has turned into the most wonderful boy, you would never know he even had these problems. And my son if you saw him in the street or in your home you would never know he had ever been Aspergic, he is now hoping to go into the Army. At present he is in the Army Cadets and really doing very well, but he is like any other 17 year old, he gets nervous of different situations at first, but he just gets on and does them, and if he is not sure he will ask. Not every parent cashes in on their childs disability, I admit that some might, but not all. Before my son was diagnosed I didn't even know what ADHD or Aspergers was, but I knew that something wasn't quite right because he had no speech and no social skills for his age. But now he laughs and jokes with me, plays little tricks on me, cheers me up when I'm not feeling well, he's a good lad, and I shouldn't say this, but I have three other boys older than he is, and he puts them to shame, and they don't have any problems, but now I don't consider he has any either. I am very proud of what my son has achieved, and I tell him daily, and he is very proud of what he has achieved as well, especially when he says, I can do this, of course I can do this!