Asking her dad for her hand...

#1
Well, I've reached that point in my life when I'm going to throw it all away by popping the question to my girlfriend. 8O

The only problem is that when my girlfriends munter of a sister was proposed to by her boyfriend mutterings could be heard in the family.
They weren't mutterings of "OMG the fat cnut has found a mug who'll marry her" but "why didn't he do the old fashioned thing of asking her father first?"
Apparently her old man was gutted that he wasnt asked by her boyfriend, if he could have her hand in marriage.

So, as I'm a decent kinda bloke (apart from when his daughter is getting a facial, or i make her gag on my cock) :D , i think i should do the decent thing and ask him for his daughters hand in marriage. I'm going to watch a Rugby Match with him tomorrow, and it'll be the only time we get some time to ourselves until way after Christmas. The only thing is, how do i say it? I don't want to sound like a cnut, but i also dont want to let the side down!

"Can i ask for your daughters hand in marriage?" sounds crap, and " I'm gonna be doing your daughter up the arse for a while so is it ok if i marry her?" Just doesnt sound quite right! :D

Any ideas lads?

I may regret posting this in the NAAFI. :D
 
#3
First off, in this modern age, I would ask her first (then tell her to keep it zipped). In this way she doesn't feel under pressure to say yes and all that.

If she keeps it zipped, you can then ask dad.

After the game, have a pint and come up with something like.

I do have something important to ask you.

"daughters name here" and I ahve been going out for "x" time, and I was hoping you would give me your blessing in asking her to marry me.

It may sound tosh, but if there have been mutterings over the sibling, then they may appreciate a bit of old fashionedness.

Incidentally, I asked my Mrs first (on the hush) and then asked her dad. He was well made up, and I didn't look like a c0ck if she said "er, how about another few years".
 
#4
Try "I'm thinking of asking (insert name) if she will marry me. What do you think?"
If he calls you a bloody eejit and blows his top, ask her anyway and tell him to get f***ed.
OR p*ss off and find somebody with a dad in the 21st Century.
FFS It's rare enough getting married these days.

Best of luck.
 
#5
She already knows, just not the DTG of the proposal. We (Edit: SHE) has talked about it for a while. Its just putting past her old man who i get on well with anyway.
 
#6
You have firstly got to think about all the traditions of marriage first and do the right thing and ask him properly for his daughters hand in marriage.
Do the right thing and keep him happy.












This way you can bleed the CNUT dry and get him to pay for the whole Wedding leaving you with all your own money and you dont have to pay for the wedding and p*ss up.
More money to go to Amsterdam for the stag do and pay for a few extra prostitutes, as soon as you marry her shell become a fat munter.
 
#7
snip>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Bossdog said:
Apparently her old man was gutted that he wasnt asked by her boyfriend, if he could have her hand in marriage.

So, as I'm a decent kinda bloke (apart from when his daughter is getting a facial, or i make her gag on my c***) :D , i think i should do the decent thing and ask him for his daughters hand in marriage. I'm going to watch a Rugby Match with him tomorrow, and it'll be the only time we get some time to ourselves until way after Christmas. The only thing is, how do i say it? I don't want to sound like a cnut, but i also dont want to let the side down!
<<<<<<<<<<<snap

Percy,

I'm a bit disappointed you asked your mates on here first but I guess you're gonna be doing her anyway even if I say no so yes, you might as well go ahead then.

Ask me first next time, like if you want to borrow me wheelbarrow/teamug/wodeva.

ps -If your names not Percival you better get in there quick mate because she's banging you and Percy.

/ironic

lol
 
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blindfire

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#8
The_IRON said:
You have firstly got to think about all the traditions of marriage first and do the right thing and ask him properly for his daughters hand in marriage.
Do the right thing and keep him happy.

This way you can bleed the CNUT dry and get him to pay for the whole Wedding leaving you with all your own money and you dont have to pay for the wedding and p*ss up.
More money to go to Amsterdam for the stag do and pay for a few extra prostitutes, as soon as you marry her shell become a fat munter.
Best advice ever - my missus's old man paid for the lot, saved me a fortune :D :D
 
#9
I would point out that when Phil Lynott of Thin Lizzy fame got to asking the father(Leslie Crowther) the conversation went;
''Mr Crowther, I've come to ask for your daughter's hand in marriage''
''Why not? You've had everything else''
 
#10
Say "I asked your wife to run away with me, she refused so can i marry your daughter instead"?
 

chrisg46

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#11
Asking her dad for her hand? In the Naafi? I thought this was to be an mdn special!

I asked her dad first. We dont speak much anyway, so he probably guessed when i asked if i could come over for a chat without her knowing. His response was a sigh followed by a "well, if you must..."

Incidentally i proposed by filling the biggest box i could find with polystyrene (she hates the stuff) and burying the ring box in the bottom, and giving it to her as a present on xmas day.
 
#13
chocolate_frog said:
First off, in this modern age, I would ask her first (then tell her to keep it zipped). In this way she doesn't feel under pressure to say yes and all that.

(snipped)

I do have something important to ask you.

"daughters name here" and I ahve been going out for "x" time, and I was hoping you would give me your blessing in asking her to marry me.

It may sound tosh, but if there have been mutterings over the sibling, then they may appreciate a bit of old fashionedness.
This is roughly what I did and it worked a treat. She (Mother in law) did have an inkling anyway.
Respect given in this way is never a waste of time, many brownie points can be earned for being a bit old fashioned.
 
#14
Didn't ask my future father in law and I can tell he's still not chuffed about it.

Can't hurt to do it, I'm sure he'll understand if you come out with something along the lines with wanting kids but not bastards..
 
#15
Go with CFs advice, as a father of 4 girls its more or less what I would like. Except to add that a few drinks bought for me at the same time would not go amiss.
 
#16
Bossdog, from a female point of view, I thought my now hubby was being really old fashioned wanting to ask for his permission but my dad was really pleased (perhaps it was more at the thought of getting rid of me :roll: ). I think just the fact that you've tried to do it will win you some brownie points :D
 
#17
Brownie points that may come in handy when she is in A&E with a busted hoop on your wedding night :p
 
#18
Can't hurt to ask, but you should prepare a back up plan just in case he says "No".

I'd still marry her anyway, but be prepared for the fallout.
 
#19
Got married a long time ago so may not be relevant nowadays but spoke to the prospective Mrs Chance before hand and asked if she would be my bride. She agreed so we played a bit of hide the sausage if I remember correctly.

The following weekend, I hitched 520miles in uniform (could do it back then) and went to her house. Bargain, her mum was away for the weekend so started with her dad when missus went to the shops.

"Her and I want to get married" I said. "Would you object?"
He said, "I've got 3 questions for you. First, have you any prospects? Second, what team do you support? And third, do you drink malt?"

I answered the questions truthfully and as best I could. "Yes, I'm due promotion to Cpl soon. I support Utd and I love a glass of GlenClose".

"Och well" he said, "2 out of 3 isn't bad".

Been married 34 years, got to WO1 and my lot are still better than his. And I'm sure if you've tasted GlenClose, you'll agree that there's a touch of fish in there somewhere. TFIF! :D
 
#20
As a formality you should ask. But you should not geniuning be asking his permision unless its him your asking. Your girlfriend can ask her dad for his opion is she wants to. If her dad said no would you not ask her? I would have thought it her decsion that would be the most important one if it was not a fomality to ask her dad it would be increadibly rude but it is so it is not. It would be a safe bet to ask her unless shes some sort of femininst pedantic I dont think her nose will be put out of joint. If i could be bothered to read your post I am guessing it would be a no brainer yes ask him but i cant.
 

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