Any legal types in?

#3
despite the option of killing her (which I do not want you to follow) your pretty cornered.

because your not married I believe she isnt entitled to everything. she is only allowed to take what she can prove she had before the relationship or what she bought (and can prove with receipts) same applies to you otherwise its fair game. Alternatively if your in the house I suggest that anything that neither of you can prove be stored somewhere for a while (a friends house or something).

It can all depend on the circumstances behind the split, what were they if you dont mind me asking.
 
#4
fusil89 said:
despite the option of killing her (which I do not want you to follow) your pretty cornered.

because your not married I believe she isnt entitled to everything. she is only allowed to take what she can prove she had before the relationship or what she bought (and can prove with receipts) same applies to you otherwise its fair game. Alternatively if your in the house I suggest that anything that neither of you can prove be stored somewhere for a while (a friends house or something).

It can all depend on the circumstances behind the split, what were they if you dont mind me asking.
Refence my bold, if you are "life time partners" or whatever the fcuk its called these days, she may be entitled to whats yours.

Unfortuantly mate, you need to get in touch with a solicitor to start the ball rolling over custdody of children, just a side note, she is not allowed to take them out of the UK without your approval (not that it will stop her)

Good luck pal,
 
#5
my apologies, I neglected the child factor. In which case muffin is right you need a solicitor but regards the property and posessions if your just boyfriend and girlfriend then I think I could be correct (but depends on how long you have been involved) although I have heard of some woman taking a bloke to the cleaners even though they were not married.

details are needed!
But so is a solicitor
 
#7
I read somewhere that you have to be living together as man & wife for 6 years before she is legaly classed as entitled to the same right's as a married wife.
 
#8
PANZER_SOLDAT said:
Cheers for the replies so far guys,

I am looking at emigrating to Canada, anyone got any trucking firm numbers lol
If you're looking at moving to Calgery,drop me a PM.A good friend of mine & his wife emigrated there a few year ago & I'll put you in touch if you like.
Spike
 
#9
Ive been married, had my son Morgan (Now Aged 7) with her and divorced 5 years ago.

The best advice I can give (As there is no set forumla for dealing with bitchy wives, is to seek out the CAB. The citizens advice bureau will give you loads of information before you need to commit to any legal fees with a Solicitor. I saw the CIB and they offered loads of advice.

My missus is a Legal Secretary for a Divorce Solicitor and has been there for nearly 8 years. If there is anything I can ask her for you, feel free to PM me and i'll get you anything you need.

Its a shit thing to happen, it takes time and can cost you a LOT. But hopefully you'll find the help you need.

Best of luck.
~AIP
 
#10
PS

A good mate of mine went through the same sort of thing last year. Is the house in you name? Has she paid anything towards the house ie can she prove she's paid mortgage, household bills etc
My oppo thought he was going to get screwed over by his ex, but when in came to the crunch the judge awarded her less than £10k plus payments for his kid, but not her or the other two. (2 of her three kids weren't his) she moved into his house, he had owned for 10 years. She could prove no form of payments towards the house etc. Get a good brief she hasn't got a wedding ring, so you could be surprised in the outcome. Oh and don't negotiate feeling guilty, it's your life and your future as well as hers!
 
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#12
Sociology....Satan's degree. Bunch of hippy left wing bitches and a few gays all bleating about wimmins rights. Next thing you know, they're starting to believe their own hype.

Fight back brother! Play f*cking dirty because she will, and fight her for every button in the house. Do not give up. Don't succumb to any offer made by her or her lawyer. Fight dirty.

You'll feel so much better for it! (especially if you get to keep the house!)
 
#13
A major factor will be if she has she contributed to the mortgage payments. If not you are on stronger ground.

As stated above first step for you should be CAB.

Get stuck into the system use it to your full advantage.

You will be surprised at your "rights".

Its not all doom and gloom mate, just play hard.

Good luck.
 
#14
I fail to see why she can pick and choose the terms of the divorce. If she is entitled to half of the possessions and property (assuming she is, of course), surely then she should be made to carry half the burden for unpaid loans, mortgages, credit cards, catalogues, etc? Especially as it's generally the woman in the relationship that f*cking spends it all!

If you get no joy from this, I know a bloke who knows a bloke. Meet me behind the bike sheds, say no more.
 
#15
PANZER_SOLDAT said:
Cheers for the replies so far guys,

She has said there was no one else involved, although I know it'll sound like paranoia I suspect there is, it is the only thing what makes sense. That and my ex wife saw a 'horrible looking man covered in Tattoos' putting our Kids in the car, definite ID as my ex.
Obviously i've mentioned this to her but she denied it, I could tell she was on the back foot though.
Anyway cos she was a bad credit risk, all the loans we had together is in my name, she is refusing to accept this debt and wants to leave me in the lurch, with debt after the house is sold (penalty clauses)

Told her yesterday, she's to find the mortgage money from now on as she's a joint owner of the house, I am not paying it and when the house gets repossessed she'll end up with * all, rather than the 15K i've offered her (a fair split of assets BTW) I am looking at emigrating to Canada, anyone got any trucking firm numbers lol
Friend of mine was in the same situation, divorced and had to repay all debts on her own even though it was her ex who had run them up. :(
 
#16
Isn't there something about contribution to the household? Looking after kids and the home etc. I would hazard a guess that, going by what you've said, it would be half shares of everything plus an element for looking after the children.
 
#17
Ragnarok_VI said:
Ive been married, had my son Morgan (Now Aged 7) with her and divorced 5 years ago.

The best advice I can give (As there is no set forumla for dealing with bitchy wives, is to seek out the CAB. The citizens advice bureau will give you loads of information before you need to commit to any legal fees with a Solicitor. I saw the CIB and they offered loads of advice.

My missus is a Legal Secretary for a Divorce Solicitor and has been there for nearly 8 years. If there is anything I can ask her for you, feel free to PM me and i'll get you anything you need.

Its a s*** thing to happen, it takes time and can cost you a LOT. But hopefully you'll find the help you need.
Best of luck.
~AIP
I would be careful when taking advice from CAB. I did that when my ex and I parted 8 years ago and the advice I got was well out of date regarding what I would have to pay her if we divorced. I spent years tip-toeing around her until I was working for a big solicitors in Cardiff and mentioned my situation and they told me exactly what the freddy was.

Lost all that time for the sake of one old codger not keeping up to speed on the law was well p1ssed off. :(
 
#18
You are a man, you will lose everything. The courts when they get involved and they will, will make sure she comes off the best. Been through it, was screwed and getting on my feet now.

She will play dirty from day 1, you HAVE to to get anything. Dont trust her 1 inch, dont allow her access to anything in the house. Check with the post office on any mail redirects on the property. This is war treat her a s the enemy and you may get something.
 
#19
Panzar,

My missus had to go throught this although she was married before, and in fact, unless things have changed dramatically in the last 5 years, the courts are tending to be more 50/50, that may mean selling the house, but it will also mean that the proceeds will be split equally as well as the possessions and any debt. The court at the time of her divorce made sure that both parties had decent living conditions i.e. both had housing.
So you do need to stand your ground. You do need to seek legal help, Are you entitled to legal aid ?.
And yes some of the comments are correct, this kind of things can get real nasty, and people will end up doing all sorts of things to get their way, things would you never think they would do, so keep an eye on everything, and if ness fight fire with fire.

one last thing, if there are any debts, it used to if it is your name it will end up being paid by you unless agreed otherwise, this will go for your missus also...joint debts should be paid jointly
 
#20
Where is the house, and where do you both stay? England/Scotland?NI/etc?
 
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