Am i right? Is this moral?

#1
I'm a student in college (yes I expect abuse) and I recently learnt that a very good friend of mine (female) who I have been trying to get into her panty’s for rather a long time (complicated story, has nothing to do with my ugly face and repellent personality, mainly to do with her 2 year old bf who she broke up with 2 weeks ago, he broke up with her) took an ecstacy (not sure if it is spelt with an s or a c there) pill when she was out.

She said she had a good time and is going to do it again.
I am very strongly against drugs and do not wish her to take them. I have already sat her down and explained the risks and my view etc etc. She listened but didn't want to know. She still intends to use them.
I then told her that I don't want to be associated with drugs and/or the people who use them. She got fcuked off and stormed out. Also saying “she wished she never told me”, in all fairness she did decide to confide in me. But more out of a boasting way rather than regret.
I have known her over a year and care about her greatly and don't want to see her get hurt. But I do not want to be anywhere near people who use drugs since their farking stupid.

Basically did I do the right thing there? It was only about an hour ago and I expect to hear from her at some point over the weekend failing that Monday (in the same class).

Just advice would be gold dust.

Edd

P.s sorry about the amount of bloody brackets I used.
 
#2
edd1989 said:
I'm a student in college (yes I expect abuse) and I recently learnt that a very good friend of mine (female) who I have been trying to get into her panty’s for rather a long time (complicated story, has nothing to do with my ugly face and repellent personality, mainly to do with her 2 year old bf who she broke up with 2 weeks ago
2 year old boyfriend?? is that legal? how old is she? more to the point, how old are you?
 
#4
Although I've never tried it e is supposed to be great and there is no, as far as I know, evidence of long term damage. The odd person has died from it but there are far more deaths from alcohol. Not saying I condone it but its statistically unlikely to cause her any problems.

So let her do it and give her the good news when she's high, she'll remember you as a love god :D
 
#5
Be a friend to her. When her world comes crumbling down she'll need you. Sometimes silent judgement can be more effective than preaching. Telling her it's up to her, she's an adult free to make her own choice etc can make her think and usually extracts desired feelings of guilt (emotional blackmailer? moi?)

There's not much you can do other wise, if she's chosen that course of action. If she's just been dumped she's probably looking for a quick fix to make herself feel better. At that age, some girls jump into the sack with next available fella, some sit in their room drinking whiskey, others go out clubbing and drink or drug themselves stupid. Sometimes people just have to learn the hard way.

A friend of mine experimented with Es. He was diabetic and it was a serious risk, but he enjoyed it so much he likes to 'treat' himself 3-4 times a year. If I ever went out with him I wouldn't touch the stuff, and would probably go home if I saw him take it to show my disgust, but it wouldn't stop me being there for him if it all went in the toilet as a result.
 
#7
She is an adult and free to make her own choices. You do not have any right to control what she does.

Let her live her life as she chooses. Lecturing her is unlikely either to persuade her to change her mind or to increase her respect and/or liking for you.

If you do not wish to associate with her as a result of drug use, that's up to you. If you are able to like and respect her for who she is, despite the personal choices she makes, then she will value her friendship with you the more for it.

If underneath it all you're not bothered and just want a shag, then why are you bleating on about all this anyway?
 
#8
Let her crack on fella. Whilst she's dancing on the ceiling and bouncing off the walls, she's going to be loved up. Excellent chance to get into her pants.
 
#9
As long as she isn't trying to push them on you and your not stupid enough to try them yourself, then let her find out for herself. If you just come out with the moralistic "don't do it becuase its bad" then she isn't going to thank you, she already knows that. Have you thought about why she wants to do it? What is she kicking back at in her life? And don't forget, drugs are initially fun, thats why people do them and go back to them. Thats why we all drink and smoke, You wake up with a hangover and coughing, but when your drunk and on a nicotine high, its great!. yet we don't see them as drugs because they are legal.

You can be a better friend by getting off your high horse and give your friend the help she is crying out for!
 
#11
softee softee catchee monkey

stay pals and keep hanging out. sooner or later she'll realise that you are way more fit and together than her loser druggy pals who will be unwashed, flabby and always a couple of Es below par
 
#12
edd1989 said:
I'm a student in college (yes I expect abuse) and I recently learnt that a very good friend of mine (female) who I have been trying to get into her panty’s for rather a long time (complicated story, has nothing to do with my ugly face and repellent personality, mainly to do with her 2 year old bf who she broke up with 2 weeks ago, he broke up with her) took an ecstacy (not sure if it is spelt with an s or a c there) pill when she was out.

She said she had a good time and is going to do it again.
I am very strongly against drugs and do not wish her to take them. I have already sat her down and explained the risks and my view etc etc. She listened but didn't want to know. She still intends to use them.
I then told her that I don't want to be associated with drugs and/or the people who use them. She got fcuked off and stormed out. Also saying “she wished she never told me”, in all fairness she did decide to confide in me. But more out of a boasting way rather than regret.
I have known her over a year and care about her greatly and don't want to see her get hurt. But I do not want to be anywhere near people who use drugs since their farking stupid.

Basically did I do the right thing there? It was only about an hour ago and I expect to hear from her at some point over the weekend failing that Monday (in the same class).

Just advice would be gold dust.

Edd

P.s sorry about the amount of bloody brackets I used.
Howdo edd1989,

Despite the fact that you clearly care for this girl (well, would like to conduct extensive explorations in the Land of Her Pants...), the fact remains that she is someone who likes to take drugs, and has told you she intends to keep on doing so despite knowing your views on the matter. Therefore, not alone does she not have respect for you, but she plainly has no respect for herself and is clearly lacking in basic moral decency. In this respect your feelings for her are not reciprocated.

Save yourself a lot of future heartache and an almighty pain in the neck by having nothing more to do with her.

Where a person stands on drug taking is probably the simplest means of determining whether you should wish to have anything to do with them whatsoever.

gallowglass
 
#13
edd1989 said:
I'm a student in college (yes I expect abuse) and I recently learnt that a very good friend of mine (female) who I have been trying to get into her panty’s for rather a long time (complicated story, has nothing to do with my ugly face and repellent personality, mainly to do with her 2 year old bf who she broke up with 2 weeks ago, he broke up with her) took an ecstacy (not sure if it is spelt with an s or a c there) pill when she was out.

She said she had a good time and is going to do it again.
I am very strongly against drugs and do not wish her to take them. I have already sat her down and explained the risks and my view etc etc. She listened but didn't want to know. She still intends to use them.
I then told her that I don't want to be associated with drugs and/or the people who use them. She got fcuked off and stormed out. Also saying “she wished she never told me”, in all fairness she did decide to confide in me. But more out of a boasting way rather than regret.
I have known her over a year and care about her greatly and don't want to see her get hurt. But I do not want to be anywhere near people who use drugs since their farking stupid.

Basically did I do the right thing there? It was only about an hour ago and I expect to hear from her at some point over the weekend failing that Monday (in the same class).

Just advice would be gold dust.

Edd

P.s sorry about the amount of bloody brackets I used.
She may be having a stress on you at the moment because you being a true friend have been totally honest with her .
You have told her you are totally against drugs and it is your choice to think in this way .
Just walk away ,if she don't want to bother with you that's her loss
i bet in a couple of months she will come running back to you and want your friendship again
the thing is you can lead a person to water but you cant make them drink it .
I know it hard and you think a lot of the lady but you have to be cruel to be kind
 
#14
Maybe when's she gets 'high' she also gets horny?

By all means express your personal view on things, drugs or otherwise, but unless there is a direct impact on others (ie, she wants to drive a car or sell it to kids) I would advise you against forcing your view point onto others - that is in itself an ugly path to walk; starts with a happy pill and ends in Christian Crusades and Islamic Jihad. Okay, taking that a bit far.

Would you be happier if she was dowing 20 shots of Vodka? After all, alcohol is legal? Anyway, there are far worse things in this world than happy pills. Most of the people I knew at college that 'experimented' got the rebellion/self loathing (or whatever it is that drives people to take mind altering chemicals) out of there system quickly enough and returned to normal quite quickly. Sounds like a phase.
 
#15
You did well to advise her and you are clearly a good friend so good on you ; ). It was a little unfair of you though to use the termination of your friendship as a weapon to threaten her into not using them.

Slight tangent, I watched a documentary a few years ago about a guy who was almost completely immobilised by MS. When he took 'e' he could literally do cartwheels. Was amzing to see.
 
#16
edd1989 said:
I have been trying to get into her panty’s for rather a long time
Give up. Women's undies never fit blokes properly and she will get suspicious if her knickers go AWOL every time you visit.

Ord_Sgt said:
there is no, as far as I know, evidence of long term damage. The odd person has died from it
Death is very damaging in the long term.
 
#17
Okay was asking for it a little when I said "2 year old bf". None the less you know what I mean.

I didn't try and impose my beliefs on her. I just don't particularly want to be around people who take drugs. If she wants to take them then that’s fine, however my problem is whether I want to be around her if she wants to do it.

Yes I want to play "hide the German army helmet" with her, and her bf did just break up with her. So maybe I could express some sympathy on that basis.
I am her closest friend (yes I hear you laughing from here, Farking (ex)bf. Prick. ******) and we probably would be an item had it not been for that lovely gentleman bf of her's. So I got stuck with the best friend malarkey, so perhaps having her bf leave her and then her best friend fcuking off is going to make her last month really memorable.

I know drugs are dangerous and would never take them myself but I certainly don't want someone I care about exposed to the same risks.

I need to a bit of a plan how to deal with this. Both the drug part and slide n glide part. Because I do still care for her.

Edd
 
#18
It sounds like she wants to be a bit 'wild' after being in a relationship for a while (which good news for you, right? :p ). In my experience (which ended before I even thought about becoming a bleep), drugs in moderation (i.e. once a month), most of the time it does little harm. You sleep the next day, and feel a bit twitchy for couple of days after that.

However, outside of moderation turns me into a bastard, and lead to the only time ive been violent to a woman.

Its her risk to take, both regarding health, and loss of her freedom. So state your objection, dont ram it down her throat (the advice you dirty bastards). Id leave it there, unless it goes beyond moderation, in which case you let her know its starting to fcuk up her up, and you can see it.
 
#19
Also saying you want nothing to do with anyone who is involved in drugs was a harsh. Basically your saying your going to ditch her because she wants to try drugs? Ok, I wouldnt want to spend my time around Junkies and Dealers, but I'll bet half of your college as expiremented with drugs. Expirementing with drugs doesnt make someone a depraved human being.
 

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#20
edd1989 said:
I am her closest friend .
Then stop bleating on and start acting like one. If you're going to scrape off close friends over a minor judgement call, you're headed for a lonely life.

We've all got friends who do things we dont agree with. But theres a world full of people you can avoid because you dont agree with them.

Good friends are hard to come by. So bugger off, pick up the phone, tell her you're sorry you over reacted, invite her out to dinner then rag-doll-Annie her all over the disabled toilets. Sorted.
 

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