My unit has now been offered the chance to go to Afghanistan as well as the UN tour to Cyprus. I have already done Telic 4 and had a good time (as much as one can) whilst I was there. I would love to go on another tour because, 1. my mates are going, 2. I had a (relatively) good tour last time, 3. social responsibility. HOWEVER, Mrs MBE thinks in a different way to me and doesn't want me to go at all as she suffered last time with me being away with one sprog and now we have two. She also wants me to leave the TA after I receive my VRSM (the papers go in in November). I however, do not. I am hopefully due to get promoted to Sgt in the near future which will take some of the pressure off the call-up situation as in my corps they mainly wants corporals. I have promised her I will not volunteer to do another tour because of her not having a laugh a minute last time, so, two questions: Am I really being selfish in wanting to do another tour? And by far the most important, how do I win her over by staying in the TA after my VRSM is pinned on my chest (I must point out that she was TA herself for five years so knows the score!!)?