This is my first thought of the day, been reading this site since everyone was told not to! so here we are married to a tech upgrader, so I thought that I would air my opinions (i'm definitely not a nagging wife). This sunray chap, is he single? surely this guy has far too much time on his hands? I know we are in the army and we are all meant to comply, and thats why our husbands joined up in the first place. However, and I mean however, there are far more important things going on in life at present than a poxy beret shape surely? Am I being unreasonable. I'm open to constructive criticism. This life doesn't come with a rule book. I'm struggling to understand what as a wife what I am meant to do right. I'm there, supporting my husband, and he's being told use twisters rather than ties.......what a relief that is to me. Surely that means he won't die if he gets sent to war now. Postings.....Where the FCUK (be nice if we had an army discount in this store) however, and I would like to say this, where is the rule book that says that you can only wear leggings and egg stained t.shirts if you are an army wife and you can only be heard if you have pushed out at least 2 brats? I didn't know that in this life you could only have an opinion if you have stretch marks. Welcome to my world. I'm independent. Have a career. Have my own money. House, income etc. However, I fell in love with a member of the armed forces. Unfortunately based in Blandford. I thought I had my eyes wide open as I said 'I Do' I knew what I was getting myself involved with. I didn't however, take into account the power crazed - small man syndrome - silly stupid men, that hold my hard working respectable husband's life in his hands. It makes me so mad that this power crazed individual holds the key to my husbands career. What a complete pratt. I pay about 700 pounds a month in taxes.......this pays for this pillock to think about the shape of a beret. A beret which incidentally has been the same, causing no problems for bloody centuries. That makes me feel really safe. This bloke actually is meant to be protecting my country. Hmmmmmmm. Not I think. are they........ my husband is up to his eyes in rubbish from his course and firstly we don't know where or even when we are being posted. Secondly, we have been told that possibly we may end up in a holding posting...what the holy hell is that. Surely my husband has just worked really hard at his course and deserves a little better than that, thirdly, i'm described as baggage and I have to make sure that we are able to move within four days! How the hell do you move a husband, house and life in that many days? Lets be honest girls, a period lasts more than 5 days. How the hell do you change your life in 4? Lets discuss SUNRAY: By calling him this, I am not at any point insinuating that the sun shines out of any part of him. I would like to ask the question - has this man ever actually done anything for our country? Does this man instill confidence in our husbands and the single lads. All the lads that this man (I use this term loosely so please excuse this) commands all joined up because they wanted to serve their country and they wanted to do the right thing, they joined for all the right reasons and they are the ones that are taking the old beliefs into the 21st century. Some of these lads fathers were also in the army and can you imagine the shame that these guys feel, when they have to speak to their parents and tell them the direction that the british army is moving in. This is a personal message to sunray if he is reading this. Forget Pony Club and forget the private schools for your posh kids, forget drinking your champayne with one finger cocked, forget all your false airs and graces and incidentally, you don't and won't ever know me but I do actually have better breeding than you, but forget all of that. You have these lads lives in your hands. Accept the responsibilities that has been given to you. Accept the challenge that has been bestowed on you. Accept this great honour that you have in leading these lads and be bloody grateful for the oportunity and rise to the challenge. Don't let us down please. All comments gratefully received. Apologies for some of the spelling mistakes.