Alcohol

#1
Any of you have a problem with it?

I think I do. It's 13 years since I left, but I worked with ex-military for a further 7 or 8 years after that in various interesting places.

Now it seems like one is too many, and one hundred ain't enough.

I saw drinking as part of service life, but now it is my life, even though I am still fit and knocking out 3 or 4 6 milers a week.

It seems I can't get by without at least a bootle of red or half a dozen beers under my belt. And however much I drink, the dreams still come of the years gone by.

Sorry, don't mean to get heavy like. More wine it is. :oops:
 
#2
It must be a sod, living 6 miles from the pub. Have you considered moving house?
 
#3
The bottle cost me heavy in years gone by; at least one civvy job (which was sh1te anyway) and a couple of promotions whilst serving.
Consider the fact that you may be exhibiting signs of PTSD, rather than just 'having a booze issue', the spectator see's more of the game.
If you are aware that you may have a problem then you have already made greater progress than many before you.
Best of luck.
 
#4
:D

That's made me laugh aye.

Ta.

Was at the boozer tonight, not that you'd have guessed, and speed marched back. 8O
 
#5
only problem we have with alcohol is we cant get enough of it
have you tried climbing a six foot fence when you are pissed because you cant find your way home it is fcuking hard work .
 
#6
still21inmymind said:
The bottle cost me heavy in years gone by; at least one civvy job (which was sh1te anyway) and a couple of promotions whilst serving.
Consider the fact that you may be exhibiting signs of PTSD, rather than just 'having a booze issue', the spectator see's more of the game.
If you are aware that you may have a problem then you have already made greater progress than many before you.
Best of luck.
I could already kick myself at what it's cost me, you may be right. I need to sort myself. Just now seems I can't go a day without. I do a good run, a days work etc., then HAVE to down a few cans, or a bottle of wine. I tried seeing a psych but it was a waste. Anyway, don't want to post shit and troubles on here, just want to not have to rely on the booze.
 
#7
I'm on my fourth dry week now because it was starting to get the better of me...I'll definitely drink again but I just felt that it was going a bit too far, much worse than I'd ever been before so I decided I'd best knock it on the head for a bit.

I reckon if you think you may have a problem then you probably have, so it's best to nip it in the bud while you still can..IMHO
 
#8
Heartbreaklane, try getting in touch with Combat Stress, civvy psychs are worse than useless when confronted by service related PTSD cases.
 
#9
legal_eagle said:
I'm on my fourth dry week now because it was starting to get the better of me...I'll definitely drink again but I just felt that it was going a bit too far, much worse than I'd ever been before so I decided I'd best knock it on the head for a bit.

I reckon if you think you may have a problem then you probably have, so it's best to nip it in the bud while you still can..IMHO
Mate. your right. Just wish I had the inner strength to not drink, which is crazy if I can run 5 or 6 miles hills every day. But I know I need to do it. I'd hate to never be able to drink again like.
 
#10
Heartbreaklane said:
:D

That's made me laugh aye.

Ta.

Was at the boozer tonight, not that you'd have guessed, and speed marched back. 8O
..saved you walking... :D




Been there..luckily walked out the otherside. All the best to you guy.
 
#11
If you're being honest about it being A bottle of red OR half a dozen beers, then I don't think you're a lost case yet, particularly if you still retain the willpower to keep it AFTER work. It sounds more habit than addiction. If so, pick a day to do without (after all, it's just ONE day).

Get used to that, then pick another day to go without. It's just changing your established routine.

If, on the other hand, you're understating the amount you drink, and when, then you may need support. Whoever supports you, you still need to provide your own willpower. Others can only suggest and guide, you are the one who determines your future.

Either way, the question is "Are you willing to help yourself?"
 
#14
Could be it's just a habit that needs breaking, as opposed to a dependency. What do you do at night, apart from going down the pub, got any other interests that could break up your routine at night?
 
#15
Heartbreaklane said:
Any of you have a problem with it?

I think I do. It's 13 years since I left, but I worked with ex-military for a further 7 or 8 years after that in various interesting places.

Now it seems like one is too many, and one hundred ain't enough.

I saw drinking as part of service life, but now it is my life, even though I am still fit and knocking out 3 or 4 6 milers a week.

It seems I can't get by without at least a bootle of red or half a dozen beers under my belt. And however much I drink, the dreams still come of the years gone by.

Sorry, don't mean to get heavy like. More wine it is. :oops:

Hats off to you for coming out with that. Not sure where the line twixt habit and dependancy is drawn. Looking at the AA website, I qualify to be a member. :oops:
 

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#16
Heartbreaklane said:
Any of you have a problem with it?
Yeah. I have a problem with cotton wool wrappers from Planet Janet telling us we're alcoholic because we enjoy a few beers or a glass of wine of an evening.

In terms of units of alcohol, by many definitions I am an alcoholic. Because I have a few beers most evenings. Well they can stick that one right up their jaxie.

You're fit and you enjoy a few beers. No biggie. That said, if you feel you have a problem, then you have a problem and I aint trying to minimise that.

Try going a day without? Psyche yourself up and tell yourself its going to be hell. Drink tea and watch telly for an evening. Worse things will have happened to you I'm sure.

Good luck with it.
 
#17
Heartbreaklane said:
Any of you have a problem with it?

I used to drink a bottle of wine a night.........I go for a run & swim every day after work.........i dont keep wine or beer in the house, because i will drink it of an evening, I keep my self busy in the evening.......as i have started my Masters degree....go fencing......use climbing walls etc. i do have a blow out every thursday........thats it.

Good luck mate, i think your problem is habit not AA status.........there are more ex HMF with PTSD than you think and you dont have to have been shot at to get it.

Good luck mate...........
 
#18
I too used to drink a bottle of wine or have beers on a night. More at weekends. It became habitual. You have won half the battle by realising that it may becoming a problem. As someone said previously it's probably more of a habit at the moment. As Sebcoe suggested, keep yourself busy in the evenings to try and distract you from having a drink. It worked for me. I still have a drink at weekends but now Im in control rather than the uneasy feeling before that it was starting to control me. It didnt interfere with my work or life in general but the term 'Functional Alcoholic' still rings loud and clear in my ears.

Also surround yourself with people who support your attempts at cutting down rather than those who nag you and call you weak when youve had a bad day and feel llike a drink. My ex partner would buy me a bottle of wine oneday and would then be shouting at me and calling me names the following day for drinking it.

Good luck.
 
#20
Have you ever tried "home brew"?? Saves a fortune in taxis, and you can make it as strong as you like. Therefore when you only have a couple of your 15.2% beer, you won't feel as though you have an issue :)
 

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