Advice Needed on Obtaining a Gravestone Tablet Sized Memorial.

I wondered if anybody had recent experience of getting a memorial stone for cremated remains done recently through the internet or by more traditional means at a reasonable cost.

A couple of years back now, we lost an old friend of mine to cancer. We were good mates in the battalion and he would come down to mine once or twice a year for a few beers and a laugh. He was a smashing bloke and all my family loved him.

Just over three years ago, things started to go badly for him healthwise. It turned out that he had prostate cancer. He came to stay with us for what would be the last year of his life and we said our final goodbye to him in July 2019.

His cremated remains are buried in a churchyard just outside Witney and we and his family now want to get a memorial stone sorted out for him. There’s been a delay because of covid but we want to get this last thing that we can do for him done now.

I recently got in touch with the funeral director and I was sent a quote for just under £900 for a 14” square tablet with the wording on it. The funeral director was a stalwart when he was needed. There were some issues with whether my mates ex missus who was still my mates beneficiary in his will and his executor was going to pay the bill for the funeral. She‘s a foreign national who lives abroad and it took several months to get her to cough the money up. The funeral director went ahead with the arrangements despite not being 100% sure that he was going to get paid.

So I’m minded to just say go ahead but given a quick Google brings up sites offering memorial stones for as little as £100, I am wondering if the price is a little much. I’m aware that there will probably be a fee payable to the church etc.

Any thoughts please gentlemen?
 
Speak to young Joe at Mundays the stonemasons on Harrow Road, opposite to Kensal Rise cemetery.
Was in with him on Tuesday, about restoration of a local headstone.
They do work for the Victoria Cross Association.

They have more than one branch. If nothing in the Oxford area, he should be able to put you in touch with somebody reliable up that way.

0208 575 5626 or 0208 968 0556
 

Zag42

Old-Salt
Most cemeteries or crematoriums will have a memorial masons close by. Crematoriums, churches and cemeteries may have their own rules on whats allowed to be displayed as well so if your thinking of having it mounted there then it might be worth contacting them and using their recommended suppliers.
 
I asked a stone cutter mate about getting a gravestone sized slab from a local quarry. His advice was that if they even suss it's for a grave marker the price would quadruple and to ask using some technical term (forgotten).

Options: Get a suitable piece of masonry and take it to a kitchen worksurface cutters to size.
There are people who use an abrasive blasting process rather than carving (and I'll bet monumental masons use it too).

It's not that expensive.
There are stone carving courses where a skilled amateur may oblige - I know it's my end of the country but these guys replaced the head on a vandalised WW1 memorial figure in Mytholmroyd for free as another earlier replacement was distinctly wrong looking - phone for advice or suggestions.

stonecarvingassociation@hotmail.co.uk

Tel: 07519931784
 

Zag42

Old-Salt
I asked a stone cutter mate about getting a gravestone sized slab from a local quarry. His advice was that if they even suss it's for a grave marker the price would quadruple and to ask using some technical term (forgotten).

Options: Get a suitable piece of masonry and take it to a kitchen worksurface cutters to size.
There are people who use an abrasive blasting process rather than carving (and I'll bet monumental masons use it too).

It's not that expensive.
There are stone carving courses where a skilled amateur may oblige - I know it's my end of the country but these guys replaced the head on a vandalised WW1 memorial figure in Mytholmroyd for free as another earlier replacement was distinctly wrong looking - phone for advice or suggestions.

stonecarvingassociation@hotmail.co.uk

Tel: 07519931784
I used to own my own granite company.

Cutting and polishing an off cut then finding someone who would have a sandblasted plus the templates to cut the masking for the lettering would probably not be much different in cost than just going direct to a memorial Mason who specialises in memorial stones.

Clearly, a 100mm thick solid piece of headstone and base, engraved/sandblasted supplied and fitted according to the local authorities regulations would be massively more expensive than a memorial plaque. As I mentioned earlier, memorial masons/crematoriums etc offer memorial plaques, markers or wall mounted plaques which I believe is what the OP is searching for. Also, some locations will have restrictions on what they allow so its best to dpeak with them as a first port of call.
 

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