A Presentation for the Grieving

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#1
It has just struck me whilst reading through the two heartbreaking threads expressing all our condolences that we, the ARRSE community could do a small something for the families of the fallen.

ARRSE is a donation run site, and (until the figures were removed!) always showed a fairly healthy profit. Can we use some of this profit to provide a wreath from us for the funerals of our Brothers. I'm sure that there would be plenty of donations for this, as we all seem to feel the sadness.

Would this be possible, or even wanted by ARRSErs? Would it be appreciated by the families?

views, critisisms and ideas welcomed.
 
#4
I support the idea and will donate, and I'm sure the gesture would be appreciated .... but.

This would need someone to know the correct NoK details, the location, and timing of funeral. Then you have the logistics of any arrse wreath to that site. Who among us can get this sort of info and has the time ?.
 
#9
Once_a_Grey.... said:
If I were a grieving family, I don't think I'd like to see a wreath with a card on it that says :Best wishes from ARRSE'.
I'm sure it can be done subtly, as was arranged for the Armistice Day wreath: here.
 

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#10
DozyBint said:
Once_a_Grey.... said:
If I were a grieving family, I don't think I'd like to see a wreath with a card on it that says :Best wishes from ARRSE'.
I'm sure it can be done subtly, as was arranged for the Armistice Day wreath: here.
Thanks Dozy, good idea, with maybe a ribbon in the ARRSE colours, if that is not too crass.
 

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#12
whiffler said:
I support the idea and will donate, and I'm sure the gesture would be appreciated .... but.

This would need someone to know the correct NoK details, the location, and timing of funeral. Then you have the logistics of any arrse wreath to that site. Who among us can get this sort of info and has the time ?.
Are there any ARRSErs out in ARRSELand who work in G1 Branches anywhere? I'm not sure about the legality issues, but they are often in a position to help with this information, especially if the funeral is to be a military one.
 
#13
StabTiffy2B said:
Is it a feasable and practical idea?
I suspect that given the number of ARRSErs, there is probably a representative of every unit of the Army here; but even if that's not the case, if a proven 'responsible' person requests information about the funeral arrangements of the fallen then it’s probable that that information would be forthcoming. I don't think that this is a physically impossible concept and it might provide comfort to the families that the wider military community is thinking of them.
 
#14
This is a difficult one and I can fully understand the desire to show some form of solidarity and sympathy for the families of those fallen. We've all put mates in the ground I'm sure and we therefore recognise the limited comfort provided by gestures alone. When they bury these boys, their regiments and the wider army will ensure the family feel completely the respect, grief and sense of brotherhood we feel towards them. With absolute respect for the sentiment in which all on here mean it, the gesture of a wreath bearing arrse.co.uk's moniker won't be able to add to that.

After all the pomp, words and ceremony of the funeral however, the family will go home to a woefully quiet house and will face what comes next largely alone. I would suggest that we can do more good for those left behind by supporting the agencies that help them through this peiod to the best of our ability. Here I would point you towards the Army Benevolent Fund, The RBL, BLESMA, Combat Stress and so on. We will never see the fruits of that support, we will never be able to mitigate the loss of someone's husband, son or father, but watch those agencies work - with neither drums nor ceremony - and you won't begrudge your support for a second.
 
#15
TRFQ, you have yet again hit the nail on the head. Whilst we all wish to help immediatly, the long term support from those agency's already mentioned is the best way forward
 

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#16
RTFQ.

Whilst I agree that the various agencies you mentioned do a fantastic job, and fully deserve our support, I feel that a simple 'we are thinking of you' type of message is always appreciated.

DozyBint attached a link to the Armistice Wreath. The wording was subtle and did not mention the word ARRSE. A message of support 'from the wider community of serving and ex-serving comrades around the world' would, in my mind, make me feel in some small way that my lost son/husband/brother/father etc was appreciated and respected. This will not make the hurt go away, but might in some small way temper it.

I also urge all ARRSErs to follow RTFQs lead in supporting our service charities, because one day (God forbid) you might want their help.

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