A caring husband....

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  1. It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as they did when they were younger. When men notice this, they should try not to yell.
    Let me relate how Mike handled the situation.
    When I got laid off from my consulting job and took "early retirement" in March, it became necessary for Vicky to get a full-time job, both for extra income and for health benefits that we need.
    It was shortly after she started working that I noticed that she was beginning to show her age.
    I usually get home from fishing or hunting about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says that she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts supper. I try not to yell, instead I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she finally does get supper on the table.
    She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. It is now not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after supper. I do what I can by reminding her several times each evening that they aren't cleaning themselves. I know she appreciates this, as it does seem to help her get them done before she goes to bed.
    Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more quickly. Our washer and dryer are in the basement. Sometimes she says she just can't make another trip down those steps. I don't make a big issue of this. As long as she finishes up the laundry the next evening I am willing to overlook it. Not only that, but unless I need something ironed to wear to the Monday lodge meeting or to Wednesday's or Saturday's poker club or to Tuesday's or Thursday's bowling or something like that, I will tell her to wait until the next evening to do the ironing. This gives her little more time to do some of those odds and ends things like shampooing the dog, vacuuming or dusting. Also, if I have had a really good day fishing, this allows her to gut and scale the fish at a more leisurely pace.
    Vicky is starting to complain a little occasionally. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. In spite of her complaining, I continue to try to offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any, if you know what I mean.
    When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to embarrass her when she needs these little extra rest breaks. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. I tell her that as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me and take her break by the hammock so she can talk with me until I fall asleep.
    I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Vicky on a daily basis. I'm not saying that the ability to show this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible. No one knows better than I do how frustrating women can become as they get older. However, guys, even if you just yell at your wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider that writing it was worthwhile.


    Just a side note,
    Mike's funeral was on Saturday, September 4th,
    Vicky was aquitted on Monday, September 6th.
  2. Ha Ha - I'd have certainly voted for acquittal as a juror
  3. Excellent advice, just a little too late for me, I fear. As mentioned elsewhere, my ageing wife left home a while ago.

    For the first few days, I thought she was just dawdling on the 20 mile walk to the supermarket (I'd suggested she walk rather than drive for the same reasons as missing lunches), but eventually realised that she seemed to be missing.

    Still, as you say, understanding is the key to successful relationships so, realising that her absence was probably due to me not providing enough for her to occupy herself with, I have carried on without doing any cleaning or tidying so she will be more content should she return. A woman should, after all, be allowed to feel useful.
  4. My God!

    That sounds just like Mrs Tombs, are Vicky and Mrs Tombs related by any quirk of nature?
  5. dont feel too sad, look on it as a voyage of exploration (and explotation) and enjoy the little things you couldnt do together, like pi55ing out of the bathroom window :wink: :lol:
  6. How about p*ssing IN the bathroom window when I forget my keys on a night out? :oops: That way, if I've brought someone home I can make her feel useful straight away :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
  7. excellant point, well presented old fruit :lol:
  8. Not quite along the same lines, but:

    Recently a "Husband Super Store" opened where women could go to choose
    a husband from among many men. It was laid out in five floors, with the
    men increasing in positive attributes as you ascended.  The only rule
    was, once you opened the door to any floor, you HAD to choose a man
    from that floor; if you went up a floor, you couldn't go back down except to
    leave the place, never to return.

    A couple of girlfriends went to the shopping centre to find some

    First floor
    The door had a sign saying, "These men have jobs and love kids." The
    women read the sign and said, "Well, that's better than not having a
    job or not loving kids, but I wonder what's further up?" So up they went.

    Second floor
    The sign read, "These men have high paying jobs, love kids, and are
    extremely good looking." "Hmmm," said the ladies, "But, I wonder what's
    further up?"

    Third floor
    This sign read, "These men have high paying jobs, are extremely good
    looking, love kids and help with the housework." "Wow," said the women,
    "Very tempting." But there was another floor, so further up they went.

    Fourth floor
    This door had a sign saying "These men have high paying jobs, love
    kids, are extremely good looking, help with the housework and have a strong
    romantic streak." "Oh, mercy me," they cried, "Just think what must be
    awaiting us further on!  So up to the fifth floor they went.

    Fifth floor
    The sign on that door said, "This floor is empty and exists only to
    prove that women are impossible to please.  The exit is to your left,
    we hope you fall down the stairs."
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