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**greatteacher** · 23-09-2009, 14:54

Yay we got our letter today xxx So we will be there with happy faces and snotty noses LOL

Well done to US ALL - halfway there now!

**marinamoonmunkee** · 23-09-2009, 15:06

Well Done to all the JS's and their parents for getting this far.

**Madre-Mia** · 23-09-2009, 15:27

Wounded - tonite 9.00pm BBC1 - looks interesting.

**ashman35** · 23-09-2009, 15:35

hi all

thanks for all the support on this forum and all the parents of js, because of the lack of info i get from my js due to time on the phone and they are very busy, she said there on exercise this weekend , by what iv been reading each platoon is staggered in what thay do and when due to the vast numbers attending the afc. so i am learning to be wait for info.

good look all js and parents thanks.

**ashman35** · 23-09-2009, 15:46

ps im drinking more , is that wrong or do i need help lol.

**ashman35** · 23-09-2009, 15:49

ps im drinking more , is that wrong or do i need help lol.

**jaxster** · 23-09-2009, 15:51

Originally Posted by jacksmum67

Had my letter this morning, three copies of the same thing, no proforma, and no map as it said was enclosed. I phoned straight away and they faxed the missing paperwork through. You are allowed 4 tickets, parents/guardians and 2 siblings. I explained that Jack has no father (well he does, but we have no contact), and one sibling. they are allowing my sister and brother in law to attend instead. They did stress that is was a maximum of 4 and that his grandparents would not get passes, but for the passing out parade next year we would be allowed up to 7.

Thanks for the confirmation jacksmum67

**wolvesmum** · 23-09-2009, 16:18

Thanks for all the support last night, it's nice to know there's someone listening! I've still not had my invite. My js isn't close to his Dad but he is to his Grandad so is really hoping his Nan and Grandad can come instead. The first 2 tickets go to me and his girlfriend! Fingers crossed x

**DRFC** · 23-09-2009, 17:41

Originally Posted by bloody_11th

my son has just called me after a couple of hard days his platoon ncos have been beasting them with changing parades then he was screamed at in face saying im getting your daor forms and your signing them.
he doesnt want to leave.
this was the norm 20years ago but wasnt expecting it now gave all the advice how i got through it but am worried

sounds a bit like the carrying the matress above your heads days of beasting, seems to be varying styles of man management in place at the moment depending on the platoon, my js cpl has been as good as gold but warned my js that will change if anyone breaks the rules or doesnt give it all. When my js calls like u give advise / experience and remind him its not personal, easier said than done though when its your own kids on receiving end

**jellybaby123** · 23-09-2009, 18:22

Originally Posted by Madre-Mia

Wounded - tonite 9.00pm BBC1 - looks interesting.

:( will watch it but really dont know if it wise!

**bloody_11th** · 23-09-2009, 18:52

Originally Posted by DRFC

Originally Posted by bloody_11th

my son has just called me after a couple of hard days his platoon ncos have been beasting them with changing parades then he was screamed at in face saying im getting your daor forms and your signing them.
he doesnt want to leave.
this was the norm 20years ago but wasnt expecting it now gave all the advice how i got through it but am worried

sounds a bit like the carrying the matress above your heads days of beasting, seems to be varying styles of man management in place at the moment depending on the platoon, my js cpl has been as good as gold but warned my js that will change if anyone breaks the rules or doesnt give it all. When my js calls like u give advise / experience and remind him its not personal, easier said than done though when its your own kids on receiving end

his section corporal in my sons words is mint its the corporals from the other sections. fingers crossed ive told him life will get better and to try and be the grey man.

**mummybear** · 23-09-2009, 19:12

bloody_11th yes I've used the "play the grey man phrase" and also "play the game" too. By that I tried to explain to my son that assuming he hadn't done anything really stupid he should look at all the shouting and extra inspections etc as part of an "initiation game" and not take it too personally.

Luckily most of his section (who were forever getting in trouble for one thing or another

)learnt to play that game too and once the shouting had stopped and they were left alone were then able to laugh it all off together. They were all very successful with this and all but 1 of them (who eventually chose to leave and regretted it ever since) passed out last August.

Naturally if you hear of anything you really are unhappy with phone up and talk to them. Often there are very simple explanations and sometimes wild exagerations too from the JS. I know that overall the staff at AFC whilst having VERY large barks are also quite cuddly underneath it all lol (Wonders how Trig will respond to my analysis lol)

Hope your son is ok and not too upset I'm sure you'll be having calls soon saying how well things are going for them all xxx

**Evie_W** · 23-09-2009, 19:26

Hi All

Can I just say that my son left home at 16 to join AFC Harrogate in Sept 2007. he completed his full year and went on to join the Para's.

I remember having all the same apprehensions as you do now and crying all the way home from Harrogate.

It will be a long year but it does fly by and my son passed out as a Jr Corporal, talking to him now he says that he absolutely loved every day of his time in the college.

My son has just returned from his first tour of Afgan and I am so pround of him it hurts.

I am truly convinced that the college made my son the man he is today.

My thoughts are will all of you mum's out there, but it is worth it all in the end.

**lovebug** · 23-09-2009, 19:44

Originally Posted by Evie_W

Hi All

Can I just say that my son left home at 16 to join AFC Harrogate in Sept 2007. he completed his full year and went on to join the Para's.

I remember having all the same apprehensions as you do now and crying all the way home from Harrogate.

It will be a long year but it does fly by and my son passed out as a Jr Corporal, talking to him now he says that he absolutely loved every day of his time in the college.

My son has just returned from his first tour of Afgan and I am so pround of him it hurts.

I am truly convinced that the college made my son the man he is today.

My thoughts are will all of you mum's out there, but it is worth it all in the end.

Thats lovely thanx , makes us mums realise theres a point to it all. Sometimes i forget that and just think about him being away.

Bug xx

**jellybaby123** · 23-09-2009, 19:57

thanks evie w ,great to hear about your son ,and so glad to hear that he got back safely from afganistan,I hope we can all write letters of support for future parents, who are going through the ups and downs we all are at present.