Thread: Parent - Advice and Chat in here.

Originally Posted by The_IRON

Originally Posted by Nice1son

This blase attitude only applies to my two sons, my daughter will have to be chaperoned and indoors by 9pm :D

Mines not allowed out the house past 7pm until shes 25.

I didn't allow my wife to have a daughter. Im bad enough with nieces. :D

and I'm not happy about him going off to bits of the country drinking. When I drove four back, three had been out till 6am, one was still p+ssed.

And have they left home? Im confused on that score. He thinks he has. but he'll be home ten weeks this year, and some weekends. Do I keep his bedroom or make a study/games room? Will he still expect free board and lodge with a laundry maid service and house elf still thrown in...

It seems to me that this image I had, of him being grown up, leaving home and making his own way in life was a bit premature. Maybe its time for some new house rules, or I will get my study


... > > looks to parents of older JS's

To be fair ours wasnt a great companion when he was home in October, and I had a little moan about him on here after he had gone back, but, we live too far for a weekend visit so we dont mind looking after him while he's with us (or his 19yr old combat veteran brother). Their bedroom is how they left it, (but tidier) a bit of a teenagers playpen, all flatscreens and computers, none of which get used now. My daughter has her eyes on their room, but shes not getting it!

Originally Posted by Theone

Originally Posted by The_IRON

Originally Posted by Nice1son

This blase attitude only applies to my two sons, my daughter will have to be chaperoned and indoors by 9pm :D

Mines not allowed out the house past 7pm until shes 25.

I didn't allow my wife to have a daughter. Im bad enough with nieces. :D

and I'm not happy about him going off to bits of the country drinking. When I drove four back, three had been out till 6am, one was still p+ssed.

And have they left home? Im confused on that score. He thinks he has. but he'll be home ten weeks this year, and some weekends. Do I keep his bedroom or make a study/games room? Will he still expect free board and lodge with a laundry maid service and house elf still thrown in...

It seems to me that this image I had, of him being grown up, leaving home and making his own way in life was a bit premature. Maybe its time for some new house rules, or I will get my study


... > > looks to parents of older JS's

I suppose my lad was similar to this for the first half of Harrogate but I gave him the gypsie warning quite early on about the way he treats his mum and his brother and sister and thats its not an hotel. As previously said he quickly adapted to throwing £40-£50 lodge money to his mum, offer me fuel money (which i rarely accept) and keeping his room semi tidy, he had grown up around a Squaddie enviroment so this wasnt a problem really. You have to be cruel to be kind in some respects but over the last two years since leaving training when he comes home for leave he is a maturer lad for it. I can see there is a lot of frustration from parents but also imagine if they were stuck at home, hanging around street corners doing God Knows what or getting under your feet sat on Play stations all day. Id definately make House rules for Christmas and Im sure Trig or any other Instructors on here would agree your not there slaves and that they would be appalled if they knew JS from their sections were treating parents like Gophers/slaves. Remember they get food and accomodation back during leave periods so with that extra cash a few quid lodge isnt a hard ship.

I didnt realise they got a board and lodging refund - they do ok dont they!

My JS is back on form tonight! Why do they have to scare us? I didnt sleep a wink last night worrying about him but he is fine again today. He is a bit upset as one of his mates has handed in his notice.

I reminded him that he will get used to people leaving during his army career. Its tough for them and us.

Oh the stress of it all. LOL

Originally Posted by moose_d

My JS is back on form tonight! Why do they have to scare us? I didnt sleep a wink last night worrying about him but he is fine again today. He is a bit upset as one of his mates has handed in his notice.

I reminded him that he will get used to people leaving during his army career. Its tough for them and us.

Oh the stress of it all. LOL

Oh Moose, now you understand why we said it was a rollercoaster ride!!

I imagine most of know just how you feel ..... JS phones and is down in the dumps, parent spends all night and the next day chewing fingers nails and worrying themselves stupid, only for the said JS to call that evening and say he's had the best day ever!

Did no-one tell you that us parents sign up too!!!

Love Rose xxxxxx

My JS tells me when they go back after christmas they will start promotions to lance corp etc, is that right? They will go back and find some are more equal than others

Originally Posted by Rose

Originally Posted by moose_d

My JS is back on form tonight! Why do they have to scare us? I didnt sleep a wink last night worrying about him but he is fine again today. He is a bit upset as one of his mates has handed in his notice.

I reminded him that he will get used to people leaving during his army career. Its tough for them and us.

Oh the stress of it all. LOL

Oh Moose, now you understand why we said it was a rollercoaster ride!!

I imagine most of know just how you feel ..... JS phones and is down in the dumps, parent spends all night and the next day chewing fingers nails and worrying themselves stupid, only for the said JS to call that evening and say he's had the best day ever!

Did no-one tell you that us parents sign up too!!!

Love Rose xxxxxx

Ive done my time and if i have to do it again i would rather be there doing it not at the end of the phone biting off my lovely nails!! LOL

Originally Posted by Nice1son

My JS tells me when they go back after christmas they will start promotions to lance corp etc, is that right? They will go back and find some are more equal than others

looking at some of the older threads looks like they handed out stripes towards the end of January. I think some were told if they were 1,2,3 etc after october leave

Originally Posted by DRFC

Originally Posted by Nice1son

My JS tells me when they go back after christmas they will start promotions to lance corp etc, is that right? They will go back and find some are more equal than others

looking at some of the older threads looks like they handed out stripes towards the end of January. I think some were told if they were 1,2,3 etc after october leave

what does the 1,2,3 etc mean please? thanks x

WIL50
They do not except faxes.... the corporal ripped it up in front of my js (nice) so had to send a written letter.
x

Originally Posted by vixtay

Originally Posted by DRFC

Originally Posted by Nice1son

My JS tells me when they go back after christmas they will start promotions to lance corp etc, is that right? They will go back and find some are more equal than others

looking at some of the older threads looks like they handed out stripes towards the end of January. I think some were told if they were 1,2,3 etc after october leave

what does the 1,2,3 etc mean please? thanks x

Vixtay

I am not 100% on what it means, but have a fairly good idea but dont want to comment and it be wrong. For my js all I know is he was called into the office after October leave and was given feedback on his progress and was told what number he was in the section and why. I dont know if this hapened across all platoons / sections so can only comment for my js.

Originally Posted by vixtay

WIL50
They do not except faxes.... the corporal ripped it up in front of my js (nice) so had to send a written letter.
x

Your a Cambrai mum arent you? I have sent a fax this week and my JS hasnt said thaty they dont accept faxes.. You should ask the Cpl for a refund for the cost of your fax!! LOL

Originally Posted by moose_d

Originally Posted by vixtay

WIL50
They do not except faxes.... the corporal ripped it up in front of my js (nice) so had to send a written letter.
x

Your a Cambrai mum arent you? I have sent a fax this week and my JS hasnt said thaty they dont accept faxes.. You should ask the Cpl for a refund for the cost of your fax!! LOL

my js Cambrai they wont accept faxes for his section

Originally Posted by DRFC

Originally Posted by vixtay

Originally Posted by DRFC

Originally Posted by Nice1son

My JS tells me when they go back after christmas they will start promotions to lance corp etc, is that right? They will go back and find some are more equal than others

looking at some of the older threads looks like they handed out stripes towards the end of January. I think some were told if they were 1,2,3 etc after october leave

what does the 1,2,3 etc mean please? thanks x

Vixtay

I am not 100% on what it means, but have a fairly good idea but dont want to comment and it be wrong. For my js all I know is he was called into the office after October leave and was given feedback on his progress and was told what number he was in the section and why. I dont know if this hapened across all platoons / sections so can only comment for my js.

My js told me bout 2 weeks ago that the cpt had said to a few of them in his platoon or section that he wanted to ask them a question but would just leave it till after promotion. what that means i do not no.

mandy xxx