ARmy Rumour SErvice

**susanmg66** · 01-03-2006, 15:26

Question...probably asked before, but remember I'm new so try to be gentle...When a "relationship" or some sort of hanging-out-together ends, why do men avoid just coming out and leveling with the woman about the reason, instead of withdrawing and avoiding her? Personally, I'd rather have someone tell me they've met or want to meet someone else, moved on in their life and want different things, need some space because they feel trapped, or whatever the reason. Most women have pretty good psyches and self-confidence...therefore can take the truth (tactfully phrased) without turning into a screaming banshee. Personally, I find it's far more difficult for something to end and wonder what happened.

A similar behavior is a guy saying "I'll call you" and never does...it should only be said if meant.

I'd like the British view on this...perhaps you're more communicative than Canadian men????

**StabTiffy2B** · 01-03-2006, 15:27

Because they might be psycho?

http://www.arrse.co.uk/cpgn2/Forums/...c/t=33294.html

**RHODESIAN** · 01-03-2006, 15:32

I find its best to keep your options open so if you don't bag off one night you can always get in touch and your sorted!!

**ArmySurplusSpecial** · 01-03-2006, 15:36

Very true i'm sure in some cases and i cant answer the question as to why people do this, but you might be surprised to find out that women do this as well.

I guess the simple answer is to be honest and not mess folk about?? Life is a puzzle sometimes, whether your Canadian or a Brit!!

**susanmg66** · 01-03-2006, 16:08

Originally Posted by RHODESIAN

I find its best to keep your options open so if you don't bag off one night you can always get in touch and your sorted!!

Translation please. Does this mean to keep your options open so that if you don't get lucky one night you can always go back to the one you've been ignoring and have sex?

**Carlos_Hathcock_II** · 01-03-2006, 16:09

Yep!

**ms_scarlett** · 01-03-2006, 16:13

pragmatism is never wrong, sweetie

**RHODESIAN** · 01-03-2006, 16:13

I think another term is covering all your bases

**Rowums** · 01-03-2006, 16:13

Originally Posted by susanmg66

Originally Posted by RHODESIAN

I find its best to keep your options open so if you don't bag off one night you can always get in touch and your sorted!!

Translation please. Does this mean to keep your options open so that if you don't get lucky one night you can always go back to the one you've been ignoring and have sex?

That's basic etiquette for any good man.