ARmy Rumour SErvice

**Furryturd** · 25-02-2012, 19:28

It is your child and it is your responsibility to pay for it. You should meet your responsibilities by getting a shagging job before chasing your dream by running your own business.

Why should I fund your brat whilst you are not man enough.

I'll tell you what; get yourself some decent life insurance, make a will in favour of your child then throw your spineless corpse in a woodchipper.

Someone who doesn't meet the cost of supporting a child is little better than Gary Glitter.

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**Disasterman** · 25-02-2012, 19:30

Originally Posted by TheIronDuke

That is your first mistake. Crack a bottle of single malt, spark up a fag and relax.

Once the single malt and nicotine kick in and you realise you are being a wet, whining cunt. You will either...

1) Shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love
2) Stop agonising because your ex has a better life than you then shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love.
3) Your ex has a new bloke. You might worry that he has a bigger dick and is better in bed than you ever were. Then shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love.
4) Join Mumsnet and bore them with your deadbeat problems. Then shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love.
5) Crawl in a cupboard with cake and weep. Then shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love.

I do pay you knob. Notice you edited out the bit in my quote where I say that.

Ever been a situation like this? Im doing the best i can, I was looking for some help on here

**Joshing-lens** · 25-02-2012, 19:38

From my experience the CSA side with the parent with custody and its up to the other parent to prove otherwise. In my case it was about a kid no longer in full time education but I had to prove it wasn't to the CSA.

I cant see how they can get involved with what's gone on before they were setting the rules for you, so it sounds like they assessed you and you haven't paid what they told you to. They really will not get into a 'she said he said war', its what they say that counts and you to prove them wrong but if you think a kid can be brought up on 30 quid a week ok 60 assuming the ex chips in the same you are mistaken. Your kid your responsibility.

I did find the CSA fair though, our voluntary agreement was a 1000 a month and the bitch decided it wasn't enough which is when the CSA became involved and they reduced my payment to about 700 a month. So I guess if you prove your earning they will assess you correctly.

**Horridlittleman** · 25-02-2012, 19:40

Originally Posted by Disasterman

Is that true?!

Yes. Everything you have paid before that was a private arrangement. When did the CSA contact you to make an assessment about your earnings?

**Disasterman** · 25-02-2012, 19:42

About a year and a half ago

**Biscuits_AB** · 25-02-2012, 19:43

Originally Posted by Disasterman

Ever been a situation like this?

No. But I am enjoying your experience. Need money, try selling the computer.

**Biscuits_AB** · 25-02-2012, 19:44

Originally Posted by TheIronDuke

That is your first mistake. Crack a bottle of single malt, spark up a fag and relax.

Once the single malt and nicotine kick in and you realise you are being a wet, whining cunt. You will either...

1) Shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love
2) Stop agonising because your ex has a better life than you then shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love.
3) Your ex has a new bloke. You might worry that he has a bigger dick and is better in bed than you ever were. Then shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love.
4) Join Mumsnet and bore them with your deadbeat problems. Then shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love.
5) Crawl in a cupboard with cake and weep. Then shut the fuck up and pay for the child one assumes was born in love.

One of the most touching posts I have ever read. You could have written for Mills & Boon.

**Horridlittleman** · 25-02-2012, 19:49

Originally Posted by Joshing-lens

but if you think a kid can be brought up on 30 quid a week ok 60 assuming the ex chips in the same you are mistaken. Your kid your responsibility.

The CSA believe that is an acceptable amount that can be paid for one child. They will also nil rate people who are on certain benefits.

Originally Posted by Joshing-lens

I did find the CSA fair though, our voluntary agreement was a 1000 a month and the bitch decided it wasn't enough which is when the CSA became involved and they reduced my payment to about 700 a month. So I guess if you prove your earning they will assess you correctly.

I found the CSA a bunch of incompetent fucktards who happily allowed my ex-wife to ignore any communication from them for over a year.

**Mr-D** · 25-02-2012, 19:50

Ah a liability order,
Good or bad news first ?

Bad is they will get it,
As you will find the magistrate is there to grant the order, not to look at the merits or correctness of the assessment,

When my ex moved back to the UK in 2007 she claimed benefits so I got a £ 27,000 charge from the CSA as an estimate of income for the five years, no verification from this or critically no account taken if maintenance paid by arrangement.
While this was under appeal ( for 3 years)I had a LA granted, court was a joke no point in taking a brief, waste of money and time it will be granted I took proofs of income and calculations that I'd paid above what a correct MA would be, magistrates were very apologetic but what they are under instructions to do is grant the order if there is any debt ( according to the CSA) not look at it being correct.

So now the order is in place but the threat of bailiffs is only if there is a refusal to pay,

I took my case to my MP who got a senior CSA officer (eventually)to attend a meeting with him & I and go through the claim, result?
After three weeks a call and a letter saying I'd actually overpaid for all that time and was in credit,
Eventually the LA was overturned and the magistrate ripped the representative from the CSA an new hoop but to this day, never an apology.

So if you've done nothing wrong and aren't dodging it will come right in the end

**twothreeuptwothreedown** · 25-02-2012, 19:51

Originally Posted by Disasterman

I do pay you knob. Notice you edited out the bit in my quote where I say that.

Ever been a situation like this? Im doing the best i can, I was looking for some help on here

I have experience of this situation.

You are Not doing the best you can.

You are getting help on here....only you ignore it.

Get a fucking 'brief' & pay for your child, & stop feeling sorry for yourself.

You aint the only bloke in the world that has to pay maintenance. I'll bet you weren't complaining when you were getting your nuts wet!