Thread: Parent - Advice and Chat in here - ARCHIVE

Originally Posted by manders

Originally Posted by moose_d

Originally Posted by LooseScrew

moose_d said..........."Funny that my JS took horse riding! Is it because most of the girls would have taken horse riding? No wonder he was looking forward to it. Lads eh!! Ha ha. Glad to hear that things are more positive."

Mine took ballet, what do you think of that?

I was wondering where you have been. Nice to see you back. Dd you miss us all? haha.

Ballet, at least he is in touch with his feminine side!

I thought you meant loosescrews feminine side moose_d???? or are you????

mandy xxx

I think any red blooded male would take up ballet after watching the you tube clip! I would take up ballet if the men were like that !! LOL Oh and if i was that slim!

[quote="LooseScrew"]And here he is at his ballet lesson...............................

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KcObp8VBxMk[/quot


HA HA HA HA HA HA HA XXXX

welcome back loosescrew, i think your contribution to this forum has been brilliant, i was sorry to see you go for a while, this forum would be well boring without controversial or delicate issues, this forum is for evryone , and none of us live in a perfect world.

[quote="greatteacher"]

Originally Posted by LooseScrew

And here he is at his ballet lesson...............................

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KcObp8VBxMk[/quot


HA HA HA HA HA HA HA XXXX

Fantastic loose screw made me laugh out loud or is that lol!

Originally Posted by LooseScrew

And here he is at his ballet lesson...............................

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KcObp8VBxMk

:D I hope its not like father like son,,good laugh ,nice to see your back,were you exiled to a desert island !!!!! :D

Thanks to all for your kind words.
Sadly I've no intentions of returning on a regular basis as I no longer believe this forum to be one where people can give frank opinions.
I feel my comments were blown up way out of proportion by hijackers who, it appears haven't been heard from since................or before from what I can see.
They may have had a point, they may not! but so far as I'm concerned, unless they are prepared to be regular contributors to this very fine forum, they really ought not to comment the way they have done.
I have to attend many business meetings in the course of my work, during which opinions are encouraged from all, no matter how they are received because there is always something to be learnt by them. I also feel that format ought to be practised on here but obviously there's no chance of that.
As for my son, the latest info is that he's doing extremely well and it's only appropriate to thank the AFC staff accordingly and I do so without hesitation.

If my JS wanted to go on leave but decided to go somewhere other than home, would he be able to do that with out us knowing? Its not that I want to know his every move, more that I know that some are getting to go home if they wish and he has mentioned something to me before about permission to go to AFC pals houses. In that circumstance do we have to fax a letter saying we give permission for him to go or would another adult be able to do that?

Originally Posted by LooseScrew

Thanks to all for your kind words.
Sadly I've no intentions of returning on a regular basis as I no longer believe this forum to be one where people can give frank opinions.
I feel my comments were blown up way out of proportion by hijackers who, it appears haven't been heard from since................or before from what I can see.
They may have had a point, they may not! but so far as I'm concerned, unless they are prepared to be regular contributors to this very fine forum, they really ought not to comment the way they have done.
I have to attend many business meetings in the course of my work, during which opinions are encouraged from all, no matter how they are received because there is always something to be learnt by them. I also feel that format ought to be practised on here but obviously there's no chance of that.
As for my son, the latest info is that he's doing extremely well and it's only appropriate to thank the AFC staff accordingly and I do so without hesitation.

Dont let others put you off something that you were contributing to. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. You have given good advice and encouragement to others whilst on this site dont give up on us. We're still here!!

Glad to hear your son is doing well. Take care x x

Originally Posted by Min11

If my JS wanted to go on leave but decided to go somewhere other than home, would he be able to do that with out us knowing? Its not that I want to know his every move, more that I know that some are getting to go home if they wish and he has mentioned something to me before about permission to go to AFC pals houses. In that circumstance do we have to fax a letter saying we give permission for him to go or would another adult be able to do that?

Hi min11, i am in the same boat as yourself re staying at some others homes. I spoke to afc today bout that matter and what u have to do is write a letter to afc saying u give permission for your js to stay over plus at whoever it is to be with and the other parent has to write a letter aswell mentioning your js going to be accompanying the other js

hope that helps

mandy xxx

Originally Posted by moose_d

Originally Posted by LooseScrew

Thanks to all for your kind words.
Sadly I've no intentions of returning on a regular basis as I no longer believe this forum to be one where people can give frank opinions.
I feel my comments were blown up way out of proportion by hijackers who, it appears haven't been heard from since................or before from what I can see.
They may have had a point, they may not! but so far as I'm concerned, unless they are prepared to be regular contributors to this very fine forum, they really ought not to comment the way they have done.
I have to attend many business meetings in the course of my work, during which opinions are encouraged from all, no matter how they are received because there is always something to be learnt by them. I also feel that format ought to be practised on here but obviously there's no chance of that.
As for my son, the latest info is that he's doing extremely well and it's only appropriate to thank the AFC staff accordingly and I do so without hesitation.

Dont let others put you off something that you were contributing to. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. You have given good advice and encouragement to others whilst on this site dont give up on us. We're still here!!

Glad to hear your son is doing well. Take care x x

I totally agree with u , this forum is here for everyone no matter who and to express their own personnal feelings without things getting put out of context. Myself personnally if i had a prob with anything someone said i would pm them for starters

mandy xxx

Originally Posted by Min11

If my JS wanted to go on leave but decided to go somewhere other than home, would he be able to do that with out us knowing? Its not that I want to know his every move, more that I know that some are getting to go home if they wish and he has mentioned something to me before about permission to go to AFC pals houses. In that circumstance do we have to fax a letter saying we give permission for him to go or would another adult be able to do that?

Yes i think you still have to give a letter. I have told my son that he can bring friends home as we live so close and have plenty of spare beds. When i was serving it was the norm for those of us who lived close by to take those who lived too far for an overnight stay home. My mum then had tripple the washing. But i promise you all if any of your JS are unfortunate to come to my house they will be doing thier own washing and ironing! I am not such a push over as my mother was.!!! I will spoil them with lots of nice food though.

Mine has choosen to stay there this weekend as they are all going shopping together.

Originally Posted by penny

dear greatteacher, praps u should go over wiv js exactly wat he intends to do if he leaves, wat exactly would pay him enough or interest him enough, he must not give in to a whim or homesickness. my js in cambrai says lots r talking bout leaving cos they enjoyed leave so much n finding it hard to have their freedom curtailed again. they prob enjoyed leave tho cos they all had loads of money!u know trainee lawyers n bankers have to work 12 hours shifts for demanding bosses, where theres money theres demanding bosses!

my js is in cambrai,and has been having a bad time with homesickness,but he did say a lot of lads are thinking of leaving,seems worse on a night time,told him to keep busy,but not sure what else i can do,any ideas.i thought the same 6 wweks hard work then weeks leave going back and geting back into the routine will be hard.would it be worth ringing afc but not sure what they can do about it.

:( my js been on the phone today saying he is poorly, he has to stay in the medical centre until tmrw if everything going to be ok :(
He loving gettin room service tho e.g meals delivered to his room

Mandy xxx

Originally Posted by toonouk

Originally Posted by penny

dear greatteacher, praps u should go over wiv js exactly wat he intends to do if he leaves, wat exactly would pay him enough or interest him enough, he must not give in to a whim or homesickness. my js in cambrai says lots r talking bout leaving cos they enjoyed leave so much n finding it hard to have their freedom curtailed again. they prob enjoyed leave tho cos they all had loads of money!u know trainee lawyers n bankers have to work 12 hours shifts for demanding bosses, where theres money theres demanding bosses!

my js is in cambrai,and has been having a bad time with homesickness,but he did say a lot of lads are thinking of leaving,seems worse on a night time,told him to keep busy,but not sure what else i can do,any ideas.i thought the same 6 wweks hard work then weeks leave going back and geting back into the routine will be hard.would it be worth ringing afc but not sure what they can do about it.

hi Toonuk

Dont know if i can help allay your worries but here is a try... Our JS was devastaed earlier his week and desperate to come home I sent him a list of pros and cons of leaving/staying - if you flick back you'll find it
He never mentioned others being homesick but he certainly was I said the same - get busy/get involved/talk/pretend you are happy etc He has got through it so far and is sounding more positive We never told him he couldnt come hoome in fact we said 'home is here when ever you want it to be but.... then we satrted on the list' I sent him a funny card then didnt phone him for a day to give him distance - that is what he needed your JS may need to hear your voice My heart still lurches when I get a text or call thinking will he be upset again biut so far so good

if I can help at all PM me xxx
I probably worried it over more than he did x

Hi,

In the early days when my JS was very homesick, he was convinced he was the only one feeling that way. I told him they were all feeling the same but trying hard to cover it up and be 'big men'. I'm not sure he believed me at the time but he attempted the 'stiff upper lip'.

Ten months down the line, he's told me they don't envy the new intake and remember feeling bad and, guess what, YES they did all feel the same.

Rose xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

moose_d

sent you a pm

Jo x :D

Originally Posted by manders

Originally Posted by Min11

If my JS wanted to go on leave but decided to go somewhere other than home, would he be able to do that with out us knowing? Its not that I want to know his every move, more that I know that some are getting to go home if they wish and he has mentioned something to me before about permission to go to AFC pals houses. In that circumstance do we have to fax a letter saying we give permission for him to go or would another adult be able to do that?

Hi min11, i am in the same boat as yourself re staying at some others homes. I spoke to afc today bout that matter and what u have to do is write a letter to afc saying u give permission for your js to stay over plus at whoever it is to be with and the other parent has to write a letter aswell mentioning your js going to be accompanying the other js

hope that helps




mandy xxx

Bingo! You have answered a question which came up in the last week with our JS.

We gave the answer to our JS hoping we were right that both families must write in and give permission.

Thank you..thank you for confirming this issue!

Originally Posted by LooseScrew

Thanks to all for your kind words.
Sadly I've no intentions of returning on a regular basis as I no longer believe this forum to be one where people can give frank opinions.
I feel my comments were blown up way out of proportion by hijackers who, it appears haven't been heard from since................or before from what I can see.
They may have had a point, they may not! but so far as I'm concerned, unless they are prepared to be regular contributors to this very fine forum, they really ought not to comment the way they have done.
I have to attend many business meetings in the course of my work, during which opinions are encouraged from all, no matter how they are received because there is always something to be learnt by them. I also feel that format ought to be practised on here but obviously there's no chance of that.
As for my son, the latest info is that he's doing extremely well and it's only appropriate to thank the AFC staff accordingly and I do so without hesitation.

Loosescrew...

The forum needs you for a bit of light hearted fun... and a good debate!!

Jo xx :D