This is in the naafi right ? Good.....I think the problem we have here is that your neffy is drinking with the wrong crowd. As his uncle you need to take him on a squaddies drinking rampage that start after breakfast ( 12:00 ) and finishes when the bar is dry, ensure that you go to the local bop and that he bags off with the two ugliest munters in there thus ensuring a scrap outside the said disco, which should be known as "Stickies" or "Lasers" or some such s***. Then after kipping in a shop doorway and been moved on by the police after pissing himself you should ensure he makes it home after promising that you are his "besht bezzer in the world"

In the morning he'll wake up with a cold kebab stuck to his forehead and realise that he's s*** himself.




Thats the problem, lightweight drinking !

Right then chaps & chapess’ a bit of advice (good & ridiculous) required.
Thought I’d stick this in the NAAFI as at the moment I’m fuming & some of the answers this may generate may calm me down.

My 18yr old nephew is currently being an ‘A’ class prick.
He’s just finished his doing his A-Levels, he want’s to go to Uni & then join up, hopefully going to RMAS. He’s already hitting the weights & running quite hard to get fitter.
However, he’s being a complete wanker at the moment to his parents.
He doesn’t do drugs, in fact he recently fell out with a mate of his who has been doing drugs.
But he does drink too much, in my opinion for an 18yr old.

Anyway, last night he came home pissed with some “friends”, he then proceeded to play loud music in the garden. When asked by his mum (my sister) to turn it down, as his 12yr old sister was in bed & had school the next day, apart from being bloody anti-social to the neighbours. He kicked off, calling his mum “a cunt” amongst other things.
When his dad (who is also a prick & no longer drinks, although that hasn’t cured his “arsehole-ness”) went to have a word with him around about midnight, my nephew smacked him over the head 4 times with the end of a wooden broom causing a 3” gash, which resulted in him having to go casualty.

My nephew stormed off only to come home in the early hours when only my sister & my other nephew & niece were in the house.
After being let in (his dad had taken his keys off him prior to being bashed) by my sister, he started to have a go at her. Resulting in him punching my sister in the upper left arm (she now has a nice fist size bruise) before he stormed off to bed. My sister was quite naturally scared being in the house with him without my brother-in-law being there after that.

This morning he’s slightly, & I mean slightly, apologetic. But he still thinks it’s everyone else’s fault not his own. Even his younger (15yr old) brother doesn’t want to speak to him.

Now, my sister wants me to have a word with him, as she thinks he’ll listen to me.
So I’m going around there tomorrow night. That way, things may have cooled off slightly. Because at the moment I just want to rip his head off & give him a good beating myself. However I really don’t think that will solve anything in the long run. But not having kids myself yet, let alone kids that age. I really don’t know how to handle it.
I need to try & get through to him that if he hits my sister again I’ll bury him. That smacking his dad around (although I don’t like him) is not on either. And that if he keeps up this attitude of being hard done by, he’s got no chance of becoming an officer, because he’ll probably end up with a criminal record.
Believe it or not, but he is a really bright, hard working kid. I think the drink is the biggest problem & the fact that he thinks he’s the big “I am”.

So over to my fellow Arrsers to try and give me some advice on the matter.
Feel free to PM me if your answer is too helpful for the NAAFI.
Cheers.

This lad needs to learn cause and effect..and that there are always consequences for actions.
He must be made to take responsibility for his behaviour.
So far he is getting loads of attention (kids don't generally care if its postitive or negative as long as everyone is focussed on them)
He hit his mother. He MUST be made to suffer for this. He MUST learn never to do this again.
Where is the punishment? Where is the taking responsibility and paying the price?
Your whole family needs to get a grip.
This lad needs to leave his parents home today and realise that his life living as a child in that home is over forever because he hit his mother.
Simple as.

Sounds like he should visit the local priest and confess.

Yes. Cos getting felt up by some dirty old irishman is really going to sort this kids problems out.